{"id":9284,"date":"2015-07-16T19:01:43","date_gmt":"2015-07-16T16:01:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.ozdeyis.net\/?p=9284"},"modified":"2026-04-05T09:42:23","modified_gmt":"2026-04-05T09:42:23","slug":"birinden-nefret-etmek-insanin-kendi-icine-kurt-koymasi-demektir-hayatini-kemirir-pearl-s-buck","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/en\/birinden-nefret-etmek-insanin-kendi-icine-kurt-koymasi-demektir-hayatini-kemirir-pearl-s-buck.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cTo hate someone is to put a wolf inside oneself. It gnaws at your life.\u201d Pearl S. Buck"},"content":{"rendered":"

“Birinden nefret etmek, insan\u0131n kendi i\u00e7ine kurt koymas\u0131 demektir. Hayat\u0131n\u0131 kemirir.” Pearl S. Buck<\/strong><\/em><\/h3>\n

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Birinden nefret etmek \u00e7o\u011fu zaman d\u0131\u015far\u0131ya y\u00f6nelmi\u015f bir duygu gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr; oysa Pearl S. Buck<\/span><\/span> bu s\u00f6z\u00fcyle nefretin asl\u0131nda en \u00e7ok onu ta\u015f\u0131yan ki\u015fiye zarar verdi\u011fini anlat\u0131r. Nefret, zihnin i\u00e7inde s\u00fcrekli \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan g\u00f6r\u00fcnmez bir y\u00fck gibidir. K\u0131rg\u0131nl\u0131klar tekrar tekrar hat\u0131rland\u0131k\u00e7a duygu yeniden \u00fcretilir ve ki\u015fi fark etmeden kendi enerjisini t\u00fcketir. Nefret etti\u011fimiz insan \u00e7o\u011fu zaman hayat\u0131na devam ederken, biz o duyguyu i\u00e7imizde b\u00fcy\u00fcterek kendi huzurumuzu kemiririz.<\/strong> Bu y\u00fczden ki\u015fisel geli\u015fim ve duygusal fark\u0131ndal\u0131k \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131nda affetmek, kar\u015f\u0131 taraf\u0131 aklamak de\u011fil; insan\u0131n kendi ruhsal sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 korumas\u0131 olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fcr. Nefret, d\u0131\u015far\u0131ya de\u011fil, \u00f6nce i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyam\u0131za zarar verir.<\/p>\n

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Bu s\u00f6zden ilhamla g\u00fcnl\u00fck hayatta uygulanabilecek pratik \u00f6neri \u015fudur: \u201cDuygu mesafesi egzersizi.\u201d Size zarar verdi\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz bir ki\u015fiyi akl\u0131n\u0131za getirdi\u011finizde hemen tepki vermek yerine \u015fu soruyu sorun: \u201cBu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce \u015fu an bana ne kazand\u0131r\u0131yor?\u201d Ard\u0131ndan dikkatinizi bilin\u00e7li olarak ba\u015fka bir eyleme y\u00f6nlendirin \u2014 k\u0131sa bir y\u00fcr\u00fcy\u00fc\u015f, nefes egzersizi ya da ba\u015fka bir i\u015fle me\u015fgul olmak gibi. Ama\u00e7 duyguyu bast\u0131rmak de\u011fil, onu s\u00fcrekli besleyen zihinsel d\u00f6ng\u00fcy\u00fc k\u0131rmakt\u0131r.<\/strong> Zamanla beynimiz, nefret duygusunu otomatik olarak yeniden \u00fcretmemeyi \u00f6\u011frenir ve i\u00e7sel y\u00fck hafiflemeye ba\u015flar.<\/p>\n

\u00d6rne\u011fin i\u015f hayat\u0131nda sizi k\u0131rm\u0131\u015f birini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnelim. O ki\u015fiyi her hat\u0131rlad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda \u00f6fkeye kap\u0131lmak yerine enerjinizi kendi geli\u015fiminize y\u00f6nlendirdi\u011finizde, birka\u00e7 hafta sonra fark edersiniz ki zihinsel alan\u0131n\u0131z geni\u015flemi\u015f, ruh h\u00e2liniz hafiflemi\u015ftir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ger\u00e7ek \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck kar\u015f\u0131 taraf\u0131n de\u011fi\u015fmesiyle de\u011fil, bizim i\u00e7imizdeki y\u00fck\u00fcn azalmas\u0131yla ba\u015flar. Pearl S. Buck\u2019\u0131n mesaj\u0131 tam da bunu hat\u0131rlat\u0131r: Nefreti ta\u015f\u0131mak, ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131 cezaland\u0131rmak de\u011fil; kendi i\u00e7 huzurumuzu yava\u015f yava\u015f t\u00fcketmektir ve ger\u00e7ek g\u00fc\u00e7, o y\u00fck\u00fc b\u0131rakabilme cesaretinde sakl\u0131d\u0131r.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

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Pearl S. Buck Kimdir?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Pearl S. Buck (1892\u20131973) Amerikal\u0131 romanc\u0131 ve yazard\u0131r. \u00c7in\u2019de ge\u00e7en \u00e7ocukluk y\u0131llar\u0131n\u0131n etkisiyle Do\u011fu ve Bat\u0131 k\u00fclt\u00fcrlerini eserlerinde bulu\u015fturmu\u015f, \u00f6zellikle The Good Earth<\/em> (Bereketli Toprak) adl\u0131 roman\u0131yla d\u00fcnya \u00e7ap\u0131nda \u00fcn kazanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. 1938 y\u0131l\u0131nda Nobel Edebiyat \u00d6d\u00fcl\u00fc\u2019n\u00fc kazanarak insan do\u011fas\u0131n\u0131, empatiyi ve k\u00fclt\u00fcrler aras\u0131 anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131 g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir anlat\u0131mla ele alan \u00f6nemli edebiyat\u00e7\u0131lar aras\u0131nda yer alm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p>\n

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\u0130nsanlara Dair \u00d6zl\u00fc S\u00f6zler ve \u00d6zdeyi\u015fler<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n