{"id":9255,"date":"2015-07-14T14:30:01","date_gmt":"2015-07-14T11:30:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.ozdeyis.net\/?p=9255"},"modified":"2026-03-25T15:54:41","modified_gmt":"2026-03-25T15:54:41","slug":"bu-hayatta-insanin-ogrenmesi-gereken-en-onemli-sey-kendisini-bagislamayi-ogrenmesidir-stendhal","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/en\/bu-hayatta-insanin-ogrenmesi-gereken-en-onemli-sey-kendisini-bagislamayi-ogrenmesidir-stendhal.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cThe most important thing one has to learn in this life is to learn to forgive oneself.\u201d Stendhal"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cThe most important thing one has to learn in this life is to learn to forgive oneself.\u201d Stendhal<\/strong><\/em><\/h3>\n

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\u201cBu hayatta insan\u0131n \u00f6\u011frenmesi gereken en \u00f6nemli \u015fey, kendisini ba\u011f\u0131\u015flamay\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenmesidir.\u201d s\u00f6z\u00fc, Frans\u0131z yazar Stendhal<\/span><\/span>\u2019\u0131n insan ruhuna dair yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 en derin g\u00f6zlemlerden birini yans\u0131t\u0131r. \u00c7o\u011fumuz ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 affetmenin erdeminden s\u00f6z ederiz; ancak i\u015f kendimize geldi\u011finde ayn\u0131 \u015fefkati g\u00f6stermekte zorlan\u0131r\u0131z. Ge\u00e7mi\u015f hatalar, ka\u00e7\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015f f\u0131rsatlar ya da yanl\u0131\u015f kararlar zihnimizde tekrar tekrar canlan\u0131r ve i\u00e7sel bir yarg\u0131ca d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr. Oysa insan\u0131n kendisini ba\u011f\u0131\u015flayamamas\u0131, ge\u00e7mi\u015fte ya\u015fanm\u0131\u015f bir hatay\u0131 bug\u00fcn\u00fcn cezas\u0131na d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcrmekten ba\u015fka bir \u015fey de\u011fildir.<\/strong> Kendini affetmek; hatalar\u0131 yok saymak de\u011fil, onlar\u0131 kabul ederek b\u00fcy\u00fcmeyi se\u00e7mektir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ki\u015fisel geli\u015fim ve i\u00e7sel huzur, su\u00e7lulukta de\u011fil fark\u0131ndal\u0131kta filizlenir.<\/p>\n

Bu s\u00f6zden ilhamla g\u00fcnl\u00fck hayatta uygulayabilece\u011fimiz pratik bir \u00f6neri \u015fudur: \u201cKendine mektup\u201d y\u00f6ntemi. Sessiz bir zamanda ge\u00e7mi\u015fte sizi h\u00e2l\u00e2 rahats\u0131z eden bir olay se\u00e7in ve o d\u00f6nemdeki kendinize bir mektup yaz\u0131n. Ona neden o karar\u0131 verdi\u011fini anlayan bir dost gibi yakla\u015f\u0131n. O g\u00fcn sahip oldu\u011funuz bilgi, duygu ve ko\u015fullar\u0131 hat\u0131rlay\u0131n. Bu \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma, zihnin sert ele\u015ftirisini yumu\u015fat\u0131r ve i\u00e7sel diyalo\u011fu d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr\u00fcr. Kendimize anlay\u0131\u015f g\u00f6stermek, sorumluluktan ka\u00e7mak de\u011fil; duygusal olgunluk geli\u015ftirmektir.<\/strong> Affetme, unutmak de\u011fil; y\u00fck ta\u015f\u0131may\u0131 b\u0131rakmakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n

G\u00fcnl\u00fck hayattan bir \u00f6rnek d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnelim: Y\u0131llar \u00f6nce yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir se\u00e7im nedeniyle kendini s\u00fcrekli su\u00e7layan biri, her yeni f\u0131rsatta geri \u00e7ekilir \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc bilin\u00e7alt\u0131nda \u201cBen zaten hata yapan biriyim\u201d inanc\u0131 vard\u0131r. Ancak ki\u015fi ge\u00e7mi\u015fteki karar\u0131n\u0131 kabul edip kendini ba\u011f\u0131\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, kimli\u011fini hatalar \u00fczerinden de\u011fil deneyimler \u00fczerinden yeniden kurar. \u0130\u015fte Stendhal\u2019in i\u015faret etti\u011fi d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm tam burada ba\u015flar. Kendini affeden insan ge\u00e7mi\u015fini silmez; onu bilgelik kayna\u011f\u0131na d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr\u00fcr.<\/strong> \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc insan\u0131n ger\u00e7ek \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc, kusursuz olmakta de\u011fil; kendi insanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 kabul edip yoluna devam edebilmesinde sakl\u0131d\u0131r.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

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Stendhal Kimdir?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Stendhal Kimdir? Stendhal (1783-1842) Frans\u0131z romanc\u0131 ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrd\u00fcr. As\u0131l ad\u0131 Marie-Henri Beyle olan yazar, psikolojik derinli\u011fi g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc karakter analizleriyle tan\u0131n\u0131r. \u201cK\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 ve Siyah\u201d ve \u201cParma Manast\u0131r\u0131\u201d gibi eserleriyle modern roman\u0131n \u00f6nc\u00fclerinden biri kabul edilir. \u0130nsan duygular\u0131n\u0131, a\u015fk\u0131, tutkuyu ve bireyin i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyas\u0131n\u0131 ger\u00e7ek\u00e7i bir bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131yla ele alan Stendhal, \u00f6zellikle insan psikolojisini \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcmleyen anlat\u0131m\u0131yla edebiyat tarihinde kal\u0131c\u0131 bir etki b\u0131rakm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p>\n

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\u0130nsanlara Dair \u00d6zl\u00fc S\u00f6zler ve \u00d6zdeyi\u015fler<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n