{"id":8481,"date":"2015-06-16T01:15:38","date_gmt":"2015-06-15T22:15:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.ozdeyis.net\/?p=8481"},"modified":"2026-04-23T15:32:51","modified_gmt":"2026-04-23T15:32:51","slug":"kalabaliga-karismak-icin-hicbir-ozellik-gerekmez-ama-yalniz-ve-dik-durmak-icin-gercekten-cok-sey-gerekir-charles-bukowski","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/en\/kalabaliga-karismak-icin-hicbir-ozellik-gerekmez-ama-yalniz-ve-dik-durmak-icin-gercekten-cok-sey-gerekir-charles-bukowski.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cNo traits are required to blend in with the crowd. But to stand alone and upright, it really takes a lot.\u201d Charles Bukowski"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cNo traits are required to blend in with the crowd. But to stand alone and upright, it really takes a lot.\u201d Charles Bukowski<\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n

\"Buddha<\/a><\/p>\n

Hayat\u0131n en zor ama en d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr\u00fcc\u00fc ger\u00e7eklerinden biri \u015fudur: Kalabal\u0131\u011f\u0131n i\u00e7inde kaybolmak kolayd\u0131r, ama kendi duru\u015funu koruyarak yaln\u0131z kalabilmek ger\u00e7ek bir g\u00fc\u00e7 g\u00f6stergesidir.<\/strong> Charles Bukowski<\/span><\/span> bu s\u00f6z\u00fcyle bize, \u00e7o\u011fu insan\u0131n kabul g\u00f6rmek u\u011fruna kendi \u00f6z\u00fcnden \u00f6d\u00fcn verdi\u011fini hat\u0131rlat\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc kalabal\u0131k, g\u00fcvenli bir liman gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr; yarg\u0131lanmazs\u0131n\u0131z, sorgulanmazs\u0131n\u0131z, g\u00f6r\u00fcnmez olursunuz. Oysa ger\u00e7ek karakter, tam da o g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcrl\u00fck riskini ald\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z anda ortaya \u00e7\u0131kar.<\/strong> Yaln\u0131z kalma ihtimali, insan\u0131n kendi de\u011ferlerine ne kadar ba\u011fl\u0131 oldu\u011funu test eden bir e\u015fiktir.<\/p>\n

Bu s\u00f6zden yola \u00e7\u0131karak g\u00fcnl\u00fck hayat\u0131m\u0131zda uygulayabilece\u011fimiz net bir \u00f6neri var: Bug\u00fcn k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir konuda bile olsa, \u00e7o\u011funlu\u011fun de\u011fil kendi do\u011frunuzun yan\u0131nda durmay\u0131 deneyin. \u00d6rne\u011fin bir toplant\u0131da herkes ayn\u0131 fikri savunurken i\u00e7inizde bir itiraz y\u00fckseliyorsa, sayg\u0131l\u0131 bir \u015fekilde bunu dile getirin. Bu bir meydan okuma de\u011fil; bu, kendinize sad\u0131k kalma prati\u011fidir.<\/strong> Zamanla fark edeceksiniz ki, bu k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck cesaret anlar\u0131 birle\u015ferek sizi daha net, daha sa\u011flam ve daha \u00f6zg\u00fcn bir bireye d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr\u00fcr. Motivasyon, \u00e7o\u011fu zaman d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan de\u011fil, tam da bu i\u00e7sel uyumdan do\u011far.<\/p>\n

Diyelim ki bir arkada\u015f grubundas\u0131n\u0131z ve herkes birini ele\u015ftiriyor. Siz ise bunun do\u011fru olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 hissediyorsunuz. Sessiz kalmak kalabal\u0131\u011fa kar\u0131\u015fmakt\u0131r; ama nazik\u00e7e konuyu de\u011fi\u015ftirmek ya da farkl\u0131 bir bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131 sunmak, i\u015fte bu \u201cyaln\u0131z ve dik durmak\u201dt\u0131r. \u0130lk ba\u015fta zorlay\u0131c\u0131 olabilir, hatta k\u0131sa s\u00fcreli bir yaln\u0131zl\u0131k hissi bile yaratabilir. Ama uzun vadede size kazand\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u015fey \u00e7ok daha de\u011ferlidir: \u00f6zsayg\u0131 ve i\u00e7sel g\u00fc\u00e7.<\/strong> Unutmay\u0131n, kalabal\u0131k sizi kabul edebilir; ama sizi siz yapan \u015fey, gerekti\u011finde o kalabal\u0131\u011f\u0131n kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda durabilme cesaretinizdir.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

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Charles Bukowski Kimdir?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Charles Bukowski (1920\u20131994) Alman as\u0131ll\u0131 Amerikal\u0131 yazar ve \u015fairdir. Yeralt\u0131 edebiyat\u0131n\u0131n en \u00f6nemli temsilcilerinden biri olarak kabul edilir. Eserlerinde s\u0131radan insanlar\u0131n hayatlar\u0131n\u0131, yaln\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131, alkol\u00fc, a\u015fk\u0131 ve toplumun d\u0131\u015f\u0131na itilmi\u015f bireyleri sert ve ger\u00e7ek\u00e7i bir dille anlatm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. \u201cPostane\u201d, \u201cKad\u0131nlar\u201d ve \u201cFactotum\u201d gibi eserleriyle geni\u015f bir okur kitlesine ula\u015fm\u0131\u015f, kendine \u00f6zg\u00fc \u00fcslubuyla modern edebiyatta iz b\u0131rakm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p>\n

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Self Confidence Quotations<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n