{"id":6681,"date":"2015-04-07T01:13:07","date_gmt":"2015-04-06T22:13:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.ozdeyis.net\/?p=6681"},"modified":"2026-01-27T08:15:29","modified_gmt":"2026-01-27T08:15:29","slug":"ne-pahasina-olursa-olsun-evlenin-kariniz-iyi-cikarsa-mutlu-olursunuz-fena-cikarsa-o-zaman-da-filozof-olursunuz","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/en\/ne-pahasina-olursa-olsun-evlenin-kariniz-iyi-cikarsa-mutlu-olursunuz-fena-cikarsa-o-zaman-da-filozof-olursunuz.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cWhatever it takes, get married. If your wife turns out well, you will be happy; if it turns out badly, then you will become a philosopher.\u201d Socrates"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cWhatever it takes, get married. If your wife turns out well, you will be happy; if it turns out badly, then you will become a philosopher.\u201d Socrates<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

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Sokrates\u2019in \u201cNe pahas\u0131na olursa olsun, evlenin. Kar\u0131n\u0131z iyi \u00e7\u0131karsa mutlu olursunuz, fena \u00e7\u0131karsa o zaman da filozof olursunuz.\u201d<\/em> s\u00f6z\u00fc, ilk bak\u0131\u015fta mizahi ve k\u0131\u015fk\u0131rt\u0131c\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcnse de, derininde insan ili\u015fkilerine dair g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir fark\u0131ndal\u0131k bar\u0131nd\u0131r\u0131r. Burada as\u0131l vurgu evlilikten \u00e7ok, hayat\u0131n bizi d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcrme bi\u00e7imi<\/strong> \u00fczerinedir. Sokrates, insan\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131na gelen ko\u015fullar\u0131 de\u011fil; o ko\u015fullar kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda geli\u015ftirdi\u011fi bak\u0131\u015f\u0131 \u00f6nemser. \u0130yi deneyimler bizi mutlu ederken, zor deneyimler d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeye, sorgulamaya ve anlam \u00fcretmeye zorlar. Yani hayat, hangi sonu\u00e7la kar\u015f\u0131la\u015f\u0131rsak kar\u015f\u0131la\u015fal\u0131m, bize mutlaka bir \u015fey \u00f6\u011fretir. Kazand\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u015fey ya mutluluk olur ya da bilgelik.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Bu s\u00f6zden ilhamla g\u00fcnl\u00fck hayatta uygulayabilece\u011fimiz pratik bir \u00f6neri \u015fudur: Ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z bir ili\u015fkisel ya da duygusal zorlukta kendinize \u015fu soruyu sorun: \u201cBu deneyim beni neye \u00e7a\u011f\u0131r\u0131yor?\u201d<\/strong> Savunmaya ge\u00e7mek ya da su\u00e7lu aramak yerine, ya\u015fanan\u0131 bir \u00f6\u011frenme alan\u0131 olarak g\u00f6rmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n. Biz \u00e7o\u011fu zaman zor ili\u015fkileri \u201chata\u201d olarak etiketleriz; oysa baz\u0131 deneyimler mutlu etmek i\u00e7in de\u011fil, olgunla\u015ft\u0131rmak i\u00e7in<\/strong> gelir. Bu bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131, hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 ki\u015fisel bir yenilgi olmaktan \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131p geli\u015fimin bir par\u00e7as\u0131 haline getirir.<\/p>\n

Sokrates\u2019in ironik dili, hayat\u0131n garantilerle de\u011fil, kar\u015f\u0131la\u015fmalarla ilerledi\u011fini hat\u0131rlat\u0131r. Evlilik de, i\u015f de, dostluklar da b\u00f6yledir. Sonucu ba\u015ftan bilemeyiz; ama ya\u015fayacaklar\u0131m\u0131z kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda kim olaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 se\u00e7ebiliriz. Mutlu eden deneyimler hayat\u0131 g\u00fczelle\u015ftirir; zorlayan deneyimler ise bizi derinle\u015ftirir.<\/em><\/strong> Ve belki de bu y\u00fczden, hayatta as\u0131l kay\u0131p k\u00f6t\u00fc sonu\u00e7lar de\u011fil, ya\u015fananlardan anlam \u00e7\u0131karamamakt\u0131r.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

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Sokrates kimdir?<\/strong>
Sokrates, M.\u00d6. 469\u2013399 y\u0131llar\u0131 aras\u0131nda Atina\u2019da ya\u015fam\u0131\u015f, Bat\u0131 felsefesinin kurucular\u0131ndan kabul edilen bir d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrd\u00fcr. Yaz\u0131l\u0131 eser b\u0131rakmam\u0131\u015f; d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceleri \u00f6\u011frencileri, \u00f6zellikle Platon arac\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131yla g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcze ula\u015fm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Sokrates\u2019in temel \u00f6\u011fretisi \u201ckendini bil\u201d ilkesine dayan\u0131r. Ona g\u00f6re sorgulanmayan bir hayat ya\u015fanmaya de\u011fmez. G\u00fcnl\u00fck hayat\u0131n i\u00e7inden \u00f6rneklerle, diyalog ve ironi yoluyla insanlar\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeye davet eden Sokrates, bilgeli\u011fi bilgi iddias\u0131nda de\u011fil; soru sorma cesaretinde<\/strong> g\u00f6rm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr.<\/p>\n

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\u0130nsanlara Dair \u00d6zl\u00fc S\u00f6zler ve \u00d6zdeyi\u015fler<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n