{"id":6667,"date":"2015-04-06T15:55:10","date_gmt":"2015-04-06T12:55:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.ozdeyis.net\/?p=6667"},"modified":"2026-02-09T10:45:22","modified_gmt":"2026-02-09T10:45:22","slug":"biri-sizi-bir-defa-aldatirsa-suc-onundur-ikinci-defa-aldanirsaniz-bilin-ki-suc-sizindir","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/en\/biri-sizi-bir-defa-aldatirsa-suc-onundur-ikinci-defa-aldanirsaniz-bilin-ki-suc-sizindir.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cIf someone cheats on you once, it's their fault. If you are deceived a second time, know that it is your fault." Sarah Bernhardt"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cIf someone cheats on you once, it's their fault. If you are deceived a second time, know that it is your fault." Sarah Bernhardt<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/h3>\n

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Sarah Bernhardt<\/strong>\u2019\u0131n bu net ve sars\u0131c\u0131 s\u00f6z\u00fc, aldat\u0131lmay\u0131 de\u011fil, aldat\u0131ld\u0131ktan sonra g\u00f6sterilen tutumu<\/strong> merkeze al\u0131r. Burada as\u0131l vurgu; ma\u011fduriyetin ilk anda ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131lmaz olabilece\u011fi, ancak tekrarland\u0131\u011f\u0131nda art\u0131k bir fark\u0131ndal\u0131k ve s\u0131n\u0131r meselesine<\/strong> d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc\u011f\u00fcd\u00fcr. \u0130nsan bazen iyi niyetiyle, bazen korkular\u0131yla, bazen de yaln\u0131z kalma endi\u015fesiyle g\u00f6rmesi gereken i\u015faretleri g\u00f6rmezden gelir. Oysa bu s\u00f6z, bizi su\u00e7lamaktan \u00e7ok sorumlulu\u011fu geri almaya<\/strong> \u00e7a\u011f\u0131r\u0131r: Ayn\u0131 ac\u0131n\u0131n tekrar\u0131na g\u00f6z yummak, ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n de\u011fil, bizim se\u00e7imimizdir.<\/p>\n

Bu bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan ilhamla g\u00fcnl\u00fck hayatta uygulanabilecek tek bir pratik \u00f6neri \u015fudur: \u0130lk hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan sonra net bir s\u0131n\u0131r karar\u0131 al\u0131n ve bunu yaz\u0131l\u0131 h\u00e2le getirin.<\/strong> Kendinize \u015fu soruyu sorun: \u201cBu davran\u0131\u015f tekrar ederse ne yapaca\u011f\u0131m?\u201d Cevab\u0131 zihninizde de\u011fil, bir k\u00e2\u011f\u0131tta netle\u015ftirin. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc belirsiz s\u0131n\u0131rlar, tekrar eden hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 davet eder. Netlik ise hem zihni hem kalbi korur.<\/strong> Bu k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ama bilin\u00e7li ad\u0131m, ayn\u0131 d\u00f6ng\u00fcde s\u0131k\u0131\u015f\u0131p kalmam\u0131z\u0131 engeller.<\/p>\n

\u00d6rne\u011fin bir ili\u015fkide, i\u015f ortam\u0131nda ya da dostlukta verilen bir s\u00f6z tutulmad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda bunu \u201cistisna\u201d saymak kolayd\u0131r. Ancak ayn\u0131 durum tekrar ediyorsa, art\u0131k mesele kar\u015f\u0131 taraf\u0131n davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 de\u011fil, bizim buna verdi\u011fimiz tepkidir. Sarah Bernhardt\u2019\u0131n bu s\u00f6z\u00fc bize \u015funu hat\u0131rlat\u0131r: Kendimizi korumad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z yerde, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n de\u011fi\u015fmesini beklemek naiftir.<\/em><\/strong> G\u00fcven de\u011ferlidir ama s\u0131n\u0131rs\u0131z de\u011fildir<\/strong>; sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 ili\u015fkiler, affetmek kadar ders \u00e7\u0131karmay\u0131<\/strong> da gerektirir.<\/p>\n

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Sarah Bernhardt Kimdir?<\/h3>\n

Sarah Bernhardt (1844\u20131923)<\/strong>, Frans\u0131z tiyatrosunun efsanevi oyuncular\u0131ndan biri, sahne sanatlar\u0131 tarihinin en g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc kad\u0131n fig\u00fcrlerinden biridir. \u201c\u0130lahi Sarah\u201d lakab\u0131yla an\u0131lan Bernhardt, yaln\u0131zca oyunculu\u011fuyla de\u011fil, hayata, ili\u015fkilere ve insan do\u011fas\u0131na dair cesur s\u00f6zleriyle<\/strong> de tan\u0131n\u0131r. G\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc duru\u015fu, ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ve net tavr\u0131yla d\u00f6neminin \u00f6tesinde bir fig\u00fcr olan Bernhardt, insan\u0131n kendine kar\u015f\u0131 sorumlulu\u011funu vurgulayan s\u00f6zleriyle bug\u00fcn h\u00e2l\u00e2 ilham vermeye devam etmektedir.<\/p>\n

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