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Zihinde Ya\u015famak<\/span><\/h3>\n

\u0130nsan zihni ger\u00e7eklikten \u00e7ok, ger\u00e7eklik hakk\u0131nda \u00fcretti\u011fi yorumlarla ya\u015far. \u0130\u015fte zihinde ya\u015famak b\u00f6yle bir \u015feydir. Bo\u015fluklar\u0131 sevmeyen zihin bilmedi\u011fi her \u015feyi hik\u00e2yelerle tamamlar. \u00c7o\u011fu zaman bu hik\u00e2yeler ger\u00e7eklere de\u011fil, varsay\u0131mlara dayan\u0131r. Bir bakar\u0131z ki ortada somut bir sorun yokken, zihnimiz \u00e7oktan bir mahkeme kurmu\u015f, yarg\u0131lam\u0131\u015f ve h\u00fckm\u00fcn\u00fc vermi\u015ftir. \u00d6zellikle ili\u015fkiler s\u00f6z konusu oldu\u011funda, yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z tahminler h\u0131zla kanaate, kanaatler ise duygusal tepkilere d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr. En sonunda zihnimizde ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bir hayat\u0131 deneyimleriz. \u0130\u015fte Paul Watzlawick<\/span><\/span>\u2019in Mutsuzluk K\u0131lavuzu<\/em> adl\u0131 kitab\u0131ndan uyarlad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bir hik\u00e2ye, insan\u0131n kendi zihinsel kurgusuyla nas\u0131l \u00e7at\u0131\u015fma \u00fcretebildi\u011fini \u00e7arp\u0131c\u0131 ve ironik bir bi\u00e7imde g\u00f6sterir.<\/p>\n

Bir adam duvar\u0131na bir tablo asmak ister. Tablo haz\u0131rd\u0131r, \u00e7ivi haz\u0131rd\u0131r. Eksik olan tek \u015fey \u00e7eki\u00e7tir.
Evde \u00e7eki\u00e7 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 fark eder ve bir an duraksar. \u201cKom\u015fudan isterim,\u201d diye ge\u00e7irir i\u00e7inden. Alt kattaki kom\u015fusunda mutlaka vard\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Kap\u0131ya do\u011fru y\u00fcr\u00fcrken zihni \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaya ba\u015flar.<\/p>\n

\u201cAcaba evde midir?\u201d
\u201cD\u00fcn merdivende kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131k, pek selam vermedi sanki\u2026\u201d
\u201cYoksa bana m\u0131 k\u0131rg\u0131n?\u201d
\u201cBelki de beni kibirli buluyordur.\u201d<\/p>\n

Ad\u0131mlar yava\u015flar. Senaryo b\u00fcy\u00fcr.<\/p>\n

\u201cGe\u00e7en ay apartman toplant\u0131s\u0131nda s\u00f6yledi\u011fim \u015feyden dolay\u0131 bana al\u0131nm\u0131\u015f olabilir.\u201d
\u201cBelki de benim ondan \u00e7eki\u00e7 istememi f\u0131rsat\u00e7\u0131l\u0131k olarak g\u00f6recek.\u201d
\u201cKim bilir, arkamdan \u2018insan bir \u00e7eki\u00e7 bile alam\u0131yor\u2019 diye dalga ge\u00e7iyordur.\u201d<\/p>\n

Zihin art\u0131k bir tahmin arac\u0131 olmaktan \u00e7\u0131km\u0131\u015f, bir mahkeme salonuna d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015fm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr. Kom\u015fu san\u0131k sandalyesindedir ama ortada hi\u00e7bir kan\u0131t yoktur. Sadece varsay\u0131mlar vard\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Adam\u0131n i\u00e7 sesi sertle\u015fir:<\/p>\n

\u201cNe bi\u00e7im insan zaten! Selam\u0131 bile zor al\u0131n\u0131yor.\u201d
\u201cYard\u0131m etmeyece\u011fi kesin.\u201d
\u201cBelki de kap\u0131y\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131p \u2018Yok\u2019 diyecek y\u00fcz\u00fcme kapatacak!\u201d<\/p>\n

Kap\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcne geldi\u011finde art\u0131k tabloyu asmak isteyen sakin biri de\u011fildir. \u0130\u00e7inde birikmi\u015f bir \u00f6fke vard\u0131r. Zil \u00e7alar. Kap\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131l\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Kom\u015fu daha \u201cBuyur?\u201d demeye f\u0131rsat bulamadan adam patlar:<\/p>\n

\u201c\u00c7ekicini de istemiyorum zaten! Kendine sakla!\u201d<\/p>\n

Kap\u0131y\u0131 \u00e7arpar ve yukar\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kar.<\/p>\n

\u00c7eki\u00e7 h\u00e2l\u00e2 yoktur. Tablo h\u00e2l\u00e2 as\u0131lmam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Ama adam, kendi zihninde kurdu\u011fu hik\u00e2yeye tepki vermi\u015f olman\u0131n tuhaf bir hakl\u0131l\u0131k hissiyle merdivenleri \u00e7\u0131kar.<\/p>\n

Bu \u00f6yk\u00fcde trajik olan \u015fudur: Ger\u00e7eklikte hi\u00e7bir \u00e7at\u0131\u015fma yokken, zihinde kurgulanan bir hik\u00e2ye ger\u00e7ek bir \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmaya d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr. \u0130nsan, kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndakinin ne d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnece\u011fini tahmin etti\u011fini san\u0131r; oysa \u00e7o\u011fu zaman kendi korkular\u0131n\u0131, g\u00fcvensizliklerini ve \u00f6nyarg\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 ortaya d\u00f6ker.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

\u00c7eki\u00e7 hik\u00e2yesi, ili\u015fkilerde ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z pek \u00e7ok yanl\u0131\u015f anlaman\u0131n k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir modeli gibidir. Pek \u00e7ok sorun asl\u0131nda d\u0131\u015far\u0131da de\u011fil, zihnin i\u00e7inde ba\u015flar ve ya\u015fan\u0131r. Varsay\u0131m, yorum ve kurgu; ger\u00e7e\u011fin yerini al\u0131r. Sonra da biz o kurguya g\u00f6re davran\u0131r\u0131z.<\/p>\n

Ve \u00e7o\u011fu zaman fark etmeyiz: Elimizde olmayan \u015fey \u00e7eki\u00e7 de\u011fil, zihinsel berrakl\u0131kt\u0131r.<\/p>\n

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Kaynak\u00e7a: Paul Watzlawick (2000)<\/span><\/span>\u00a0Mutsuzluk K\u0131lavuzu (\u00c7ev. Veysel Atayman), Ayr\u0131nt\u0131 Yay\u0131nlar\u0131, \u0130stanbul<\/em><\/p>\n

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Zihinsel G\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fcz Ya\u015famdaki En B\u00fcy\u00fck Sermayenizdir<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n