{"id":5691,"date":"2018-10-23T02:29:58","date_gmt":"2018-10-23T02:29:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.ozdeyis.net\/?p=5691"},"modified":"2026-06-27T14:25:09","modified_gmt":"2026-06-27T14:25:09","slug":"baskalarinin-benim-hakkimda-ne-dusundugunu-onemsemeyerek-omrumu-yil-uzattim-charles-bukowski","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/en\/baskalarinin-benim-hakkimda-ne-dusundugunu-onemsemeyerek-omrumu-yil-uzattim-charles-bukowski.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cI have extended my life by ten years, not caring what other people think of me.\u201d Charles Bukowski"},"content":{"rendered":"

“Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n benim hakk\u0131mda ne d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc \u00f6nemsemeyerek \u00f6mr\u00fcm\u00fc on y\u0131l uzatt\u0131m” Charles Bukowski<\/a><\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n

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Bu s\u00f6z, insan\u0131n zihinsel y\u00fcklerini fark etti\u011finde hayat\u0131n\u0131n nas\u0131l hafifleyebilece\u011fini \u00e7arp\u0131c\u0131 bi\u00e7imde anlat\u0131r. Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n bizimle ilgili ne d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc fazlas\u0131yla \u00f6nemsemek, g\u00f6r\u00fcnmez bir bask\u0131 yarat\u0131r; s\u00fcrekli kendimizi a\u00e7\u0131klama, ispatlama ve onaylatma ihtiyac\u0131 do\u011furur. Oysa bu y\u00fck, \u00e7o\u011fu zaman ger\u00e7ekte var olmayan bir tehdidin sonucudur. Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerini merkeze koydu\u011fumuzda, kendi sesimizi k\u0131sar\u0131z.<\/strong> Bukowski\u2019nin i\u015faret etti\u011fi \u201con y\u0131l\u201d, takvimde yazan bir s\u00fcre de\u011fil; daha az kayg\u0131, daha az i\u00e7 gerilim ve daha \u00e7ok \u00f6zg\u00fcr nefes<\/em> demektir. \u0130nsan, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n zihninde ya\u015famaktan vazge\u00e7ti\u011finde, kendi hayat\u0131na ger\u00e7ekten ad\u0131m atar.<\/p>\n

Bu s\u00f6zden ilhamla g\u00fcnl\u00fck hayatta uygulanabilecek basit ama etkili bir pratik var: \u201cEtkim alan\u0131 filtresi.\u201d<\/em> Bir karar al\u0131rken ya da bir davran\u0131\u015f sergilerken kendinize \u015fu soruyu sorun: \u201cBu ki\u015finin benim hayat\u0131m \u00fczerindeki ger\u00e7ek etkisi ne?\u201d<\/strong> E\u011fer bu etki yok denecek kadar azsa, o d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceyi zihninizde a\u011f\u0131rlamay\u0131 b\u0131rak\u0131n. Her fikri misafir etmek zorunda de\u011filsiniz.<\/em> Biz bunu al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131k haline getirdi\u011fimizde, zihnimiz sadele\u015fir, enerjimiz artar ve kendi yolumuzda daha sa\u011flam y\u00fcr\u00fcmeye ba\u015flar\u0131z. Bazen ya\u015fam\u0131 uzatan \u015fey, yeni bir \u015fey eklemek de\u011fil; gereksiz y\u00fckleri cesaretle b\u0131rakmakt\u0131r.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Charles Bukowski Kimdir?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Charles Bukowski, 1920\u20131994 y\u0131llar\u0131 aras\u0131nda ya\u015fam\u0131\u015f Amerikal\u0131 \u015fair, romanc\u0131 ve \u00f6yk\u00fcc\u00fcd\u00fcr. Hayat\u0131n kenar\u0131nda kalan insanlar\u0131n d\u00fcnyas\u0131n\u0131, alkol\u00fc, yaln\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131, \u00f6fkeyi ve \u00e7\u0131plak ger\u00e7ekli\u011fi sans\u00fcrs\u00fcz bir dille anlatmas\u0131yla tan\u0131n\u0131r.\u00a0Postane<\/em>,\u00a0Factotum<\/em>\u00a0.\u00a0Kad\u0131nlar<\/em>\u00a0gibi eserleriyle geni\u015f bir okur kitlesine ula\u015fm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Bukowski s\u00f6zleri, edebi zarafetten \u00e7ok d\u00fcr\u00fcstl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc ve ham ger\u00e7e\u011fi merkeze al\u0131r. Onu \u00f6zg\u00fcn k\u0131lan, insan\u0131n karanl\u0131k yanlar\u0131n\u0131 y\u00fcceltmeden ama saklamadan yazabilmesidir. Bukowski\u2019ye g\u00f6re ya\u015fam, cilalanacak bir vitrin de\u011fil; oldu\u011fu gibi ya\u015fanacak bir deneyimdir.<\/p>\n

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\u0130nsanlara Dair \u00d6zl\u00fc S\u00f6zler ve \u00d6zdeyi\u015fler<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n