{"id":44699,"date":"2022-07-05T19:50:16","date_gmt":"2022-07-05T19:50:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/?p=44699"},"modified":"2026-02-26T12:38:53","modified_gmt":"2026-02-26T12:38:53","slug":"dusmanlarimizdan-nefret-ettigimizde-onlara-bizim-uzerimizde-guc-vermis-oluyoruz","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/en\/dusmanlarimizdan-nefret-ettigimizde-onlara-bizim-uzerimizde-guc-vermis-oluyoruz.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cWhen we hate our enemies, we give them power over us; power over our sleep, appetite, blood pressure, health and happiness.\u201d Dale Carnegie"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cWhen we hate our enemies, we give them power over us; power over our sleep, appetite, blood pressure, health and happiness.\u201d Dale Carnegie<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

\""Nas\u0131l<\/a><\/p>\n

\u201cD\u00fc\u015fmanlar\u0131m\u0131zdan nefret etti\u011fimizde, onlara bizim \u00fczerimizde g\u00fc\u00e7 vermi\u015f oluyoruz; uykumuz, i\u015ftah\u0131m\u0131z, tansiyonumuz, sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z ve mutlulu\u011fumuz \u00fczerinde g\u00fc\u00e7.\u201d s\u00f6z\u00fcyle Dale Carnegie<\/span><\/span>, nefretin g\u00f6r\u00fcnmeyen bedelini \u00e7arp\u0131c\u0131 bir \u015fekilde ortaya koyar. Nefret etti\u011fimiz ki\u015fiyi cezaland\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 san\u0131r\u0131z; oysa asl\u0131nda kendi i\u00e7 huzurumuzu rehin veririz. Zihnimiz s\u00fcrekli o ki\u015fiyi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr, bedenimiz stres hormonlar\u0131 \u00fcretir, kalbimiz h\u0131zlan\u0131r, uykumuz ka\u00e7ar. \u00d6fke ve nefret, kar\u015f\u0131 tarafa de\u011fil; en \u00e7ok bize zarar verir.<\/strong> Ki\u015fisel geli\u015fim ve motivasyon yolculu\u011funda as\u0131l g\u00fc\u00e7, duygular\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 y\u00f6netebilme becerisidir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc kontrol edemedi\u011fimiz her duygu, hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n direksiyonunu ba\u015fkas\u0131na teslim etmemize neden olur.<\/p>\n

Bu s\u00f6zden ilhamla g\u00fcnl\u00fck hayatta uygulayabilece\u011finiz pratik \u00f6neri \u015fudur: \u201cZihinsel serbest b\u0131rakma\u201d egzersizi yap\u0131n. Sizi \u00f6fkelendiren birini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fczde, i\u00e7inizden \u015fu c\u00fcmleyi bilin\u00e7li \u015fekilde tekrar edin: \u201cSeni serbest b\u0131rak\u0131yorum, enerjimi geri al\u0131yorum.\u201d Bu bir onaylama c\u00fcmlesi de\u011fil; bir bilin\u00e7 tercihi. Ard\u0131ndan dikkatinizi hemen kendi hedeflerinize y\u00f6nlendirin. Enerjinizi d\u00fc\u015fman\u0131n\u0131za de\u011fil, potansiyelinize yat\u0131r\u0131n.<\/strong> Bu basit zihinsel y\u00f6n de\u011fi\u015ftirme prati\u011fi, stres seviyenizi azalt\u0131r ve sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 koruman\u0131za yard\u0131mc\u0131 olur. Unutmay\u0131n, mutluluk \u00e7o\u011fu zaman d\u0131\u015f ko\u015fullardan de\u011fil; i\u00e7sel y\u00f6netimden do\u011far.<\/p>\n

Diyelim ki i\u015f yerinde size haks\u0131zl\u0131k yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz biri var. G\u00fcn boyu onu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyor, i\u00e7inizden tart\u0131\u015fmalar ya\u015f\u0131yor, hatta gece yata\u011fa yatt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda bile zihniniz susmuyor. Bu durumda kazanan kim? O ki\u015fi muhtemelen hayat\u0131na devam ediyor. Ama siz uykusuz kal\u0131yor, sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 zedeliyor ve motivasyonunuzu kaybediyorsunuz. \u0130\u015fte tam burada se\u00e7im yapabilirsiniz: Ya \u00f6fkenizi besleyeceksiniz ya da \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc. Ger\u00e7ek g\u00fc\u00e7; nefret ederek de\u011fil, affederek ve oda\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 kendinize \u00e7evirerek kazan\u0131l\u0131r.<\/strong><\/em> Dale Carnegie<\/span><\/span>\u2019nin vurgulad\u0131\u011f\u0131 gibi, duygusal \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck hem ba\u015far\u0131n\u0131n hem de sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir ya\u015fam\u0131n temelidir.<\/p>\n

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Dale Carnegie Kimdir?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Dale Carnegie<\/span><\/span> (1888\u20131955) Amerikal\u0131 yazar, e\u011fitmen ve ki\u015fisel geli\u015fim alan\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6nc\u00fclerinden biridir. \u00d6zellikle \u201cHow to Win Friends and Influence People\u201d (Dost Kazanma ve \u0130nsanlar\u0131 Etkileme Sanat\u0131) adl\u0131 eseriyle d\u00fcnya \u00e7ap\u0131nda \u00fcn kazanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. \u0130leti\u015fim, insan ili\u015fkileri, liderlik ve \u00f6zg\u00fcven konular\u0131nda geli\u015ftirdi\u011fi e\u011fitim programlar\u0131 milyonlarca insana ula\u015fm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Carnegie, insanlar\u0131n duygusal zek\u00e2lar\u0131n\u0131 geli\u015ftirmeleri ve daha bilin\u00e7li ili\u015fkiler kurmalar\u0131 gerekti\u011fini savunmu\u015ftur.<\/p>\n

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The Art of Public Speaking and Effective Presentation Techniques<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n