{"id":43888,"date":"2022-02-27T20:51:36","date_gmt":"2022-02-27T20:51:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/?p=43888"},"modified":"2026-08-12T15:50:03","modified_gmt":"2026-08-12T15:50:03","slug":"dusman-hangi-tarafta-olursa-olsun-sizi-oldurtecek-olandir","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/en\/dusman-hangi-tarafta-olursa-olsun-sizi-oldurtecek-olandir.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cThe enemy is the one who will get you killed, no matter what side he is on.\u201d Joseph Heller"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cThe enemy is the one who will get you killed, no matter what side he is on.\u201d Joseph Heller<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/h3>\n

Joseph Heller\u2019\u0131n bu s\u00f6z\u00fc, d\u00fc\u015fmanl\u0131\u011f\u0131 yaln\u0131zca kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zda duran, bize a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kan insanlarla s\u0131n\u0131rlamamak gerekti\u011fini hat\u0131rlat\u0131r. Bazen bize zarar veren ki\u015fi, grup veya d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceyi yanl\u0131\u015f yerde arayabiliriz.<\/strong> Oysa bir insan\u0131n kim oldu\u011fu, hangi tarafta durdu\u011fu ya da bize yak\u0131n g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcp g\u00f6r\u00fcnmedi\u011finden \u00e7ok, davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n bizi nereye g\u00f6t\u00fcrd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcne bakmak gerekir. Ger\u00e7ek hayatta da g\u00fcven duydu\u011fumuz bir insan\u0131n ihaneti, destek bekledi\u011fimiz birinin engellemesi veya kendi \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131m\u0131z i\u00e7in geli\u015ftirdi\u011fimiz zararl\u0131 bir al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131k bizi hi\u00e7 beklemedi\u011fimiz bi\u00e7imde y\u0131pratabilir. Bu nedenle g\u00fcven, sadakat ve dostluk yaln\u0131zca s\u00f6zlerle de\u011fil, davran\u0131\u015flarla de\u011ferlendirilmelidir.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Bu s\u00f6zden g\u00fcnl\u00fck ya\u015fam i\u00e7in \u00e7\u0131karabilece\u011fimiz pratik \u00f6neri, hayat\u0131m\u0131zdaki \u00f6nemli insanlar\u0131 ve ili\u015fkileri zaman zaman s\u00f6zlerine de\u011fil, davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131na g\u00f6re de\u011ferlendirmektir.<\/strong> Kendinize \u015fu soruyu sorabilirsiniz: \u201cBu insan\u0131n hayat\u0131mdaki varl\u0131\u011f\u0131 beni g\u00fc\u00e7lendiriyor mu, yoksa s\u00fcrekli t\u00fcketiyor mu?\u201d Burada ama\u00e7 \u00e7evremizdeki herkesi \u201cdost\u201d veya \u201cd\u00fc\u015fman\u201d diye s\u0131n\u0131fland\u0131rmak de\u011fildir. Daha sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 olan, s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 fark etmek ve bize zarar veren davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 normalle\u015ftirmemektir.<\/strong> Ayn\u0131 de\u011ferlendirmeyi kendimiz i\u00e7in de yapabiliriz. Bazen d\u0131\u015far\u0131daki bir d\u00fc\u015fmandan \u00e7ok, korkular\u0131m\u0131z, ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z, \u00f6fkemiz veya s\u00fcrekli kendimizi k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmseyen d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerimiz bizi hedeflerimizden uzakla\u015ft\u0131rabilir.<\/p>\n

\u00d6rne\u011fin size s\u00fcrekli destek oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yleyen bir arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n, \u00f6nemli bir karar ald\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda sizi k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsedi\u011fini ve ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z olman\u0131z i\u00e7in cesaretinizi k\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn. Ba\u015fka bir tarafta ise a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a ele\u015ftiren fakat geli\u015fmeniz i\u00e7in d\u00fcr\u00fcst geri bildirimler veren biri olabilir. Hangisinin ger\u00e7ek anlamda size zarar verdi\u011fini anlamak i\u00e7in s\u00f6zlere de\u011fil, davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n \u00fczerimizde b\u0131rakt\u0131\u011f\u0131 etkiye<\/strong> bakmak gerekir. Ayn\u0131 durum kendi i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyam\u0131z i\u00e7in de ge\u00e7erlidir: Bazen bizi geriye \u00e7eken \u015fey bir insan de\u011fil, de\u011fi\u015ftirmeye cesaret edemedi\u011fimiz bir al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131kt\u0131r. Bu nedenle d\u00fc\u015fman ararken yaln\u0131zca kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdakine bakmayal\u0131m; bize zarar veren \u015feyin nereden geldi\u011fini anlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fal\u0131m. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ger\u00e7ek g\u00fc\u00e7, kimin kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zda oldu\u011funu bilmek kadar, neyin bizi geriye \u00e7ekti\u011fini fark edebilmekten ge\u00e7er.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

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Joseph Heller Kimdir?<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n

Joseph Heller (1923-1999) Amerikal\u0131 romanc\u0131, oyun yazar\u0131 ve senaristtir. \u00d6zellikle sava\u015f\u0131n anlams\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, b\u00fcrokrasiyi ve insan\u0131n sistem kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndaki \u00e7aresizli\u011fini mizahi ve ironik bir dille ele ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 Madde 22 (Catch-22) adl\u0131 roman\u0131yla d\u00fcnya edebiyat\u0131nda \u00f6nemli bir yer edinmi\u015ftir. II. D\u00fcnya Sava\u015f\u0131 s\u0131ras\u0131nda Amerikan Hava Kuvvetleri’nde g\u00f6rev yapan Heller, sava\u015f deneyimlerinden \u00f6nemli \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcde yararlanarak yazd\u0131\u011f\u0131 Madde 22<\/em> ile sava\u015f edebiyat\u0131n\u0131n en etkili eserlerinden birini ortaya koymu\u015ftur. Eserlerinde sava\u015f, b\u00fcrokrasi, g\u00fc\u00e7, \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck, insan do\u011fas\u0131 ve abs\u00fcrt ya\u015fam ko\u015fullar\u0131 gibi temalar\u0131 i\u015fleyen Heller, \u00f6zellikle kara mizah\u0131n g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc temsilcilerinden biri olarak kabul edilir.<\/p>\n

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Sava\u015f ve Bar\u0131\u015fa Dair \u00d6zl\u00fc S\u00f6zler<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n