{"id":42735,"date":"2021-08-04T06:34:50","date_gmt":"2021-08-04T06:34:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/?p=42735"},"modified":"2026-10-02T10:48:57","modified_gmt":"2026-10-02T10:48:57","slug":"cocuklar-sizi-asla-dinlemiyor-diye-endise-etmeyin-surekli-sizi-izliyorlar-bundan-kaygilanin-robert-fulghum","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/en\/cocuklar-sizi-asla-dinlemiyor-diye-endise-etmeyin-surekli-sizi-izliyorlar-bundan-kaygilanin-robert-fulghum.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cDon't worry about the kids never listening to you; They're constantly watching you, so worry about it." Robert Fulghum"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cDon't worry about the kids never listening to you; They're constantly watching you, so worry about it." Robert Fulghum<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/h3>\n

Robert Fulghum\u2019un \u201c\u00c7ocuklar sizi asla dinlemiyor diye endi\u015fe etmeyin; s\u00fcrekli sizi izliyorlar, bundan kayg\u0131lan\u0131n.\u201d s\u00f6z\u00fc, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n e\u011fitiminde s\u00f6zlerimizden \u00e7ok davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n belirleyici oldu\u011funu<\/strong> anlat\u0131r. \u00c7ocuklar yaln\u0131zca onlara ne s\u00f6yledi\u011fimizi de\u011fil, bizim insanlara nas\u0131l davrand\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131, \u00f6fkelendi\u011fimizde nas\u0131l tepki verdi\u011fimizi, hata yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda ne yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 ve zor zamanlarda nas\u0131l davrand\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 da dikkatle g\u00f6zlemler. Bu nedenle \u201cBunu yapma.\u201d demek kadar, hatta \u00e7o\u011fu zaman ondan daha g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc olan \u015fey, bizim ayn\u0131 durumda ne yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zd\u0131r. \u00c7ocuklar, yeti\u015fkinlerin s\u00f6ylediklerinden \u00e7ok ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 model al\u0131rlar.<\/strong> Fulghum\u2019un bu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesi asl\u0131nda yaln\u0131zca ebeveynlere de\u011fil, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n hayat\u0131nda rol alan herkese \u00f6nemli bir sorumluluk hat\u0131rlat\u0131r: Bir \u00e7ocu\u011fa b\u0131rakabilece\u011fimiz en g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc e\u011fitim, kendi davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131m\u0131zla verdi\u011fimiz \u00f6rnektir.<\/p>\n

Bu s\u00f6zden g\u00fcnl\u00fck ya\u015fam i\u00e7in \u00e7\u0131karabilece\u011fimiz pratik \u00f6neri \u015fudur: \u00c7ocu\u011funuzdan de\u011fi\u015ftirmesini istedi\u011finiz bir davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n \u00f6nce kendi hayat\u0131n\u0131zdaki kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131na bak\u0131n.<\/strong> \u00c7ocu\u011funuzun daha az telefon kullanmas\u0131n\u0131 istiyorsan\u0131z kendi ekran al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131, insanlara sayg\u0131l\u0131 konu\u015fmas\u0131n\u0131 istiyorsan\u0131z \u00f6fkelendi\u011finizde kulland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z dili, kitap okumas\u0131n\u0131 istiyorsan\u0131z sizin okumaya ay\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z zaman\u0131 g\u00f6zden ge\u00e7irin. Burada ama\u00e7 kusursuz bir ebeveyn olmak de\u011fildir; zaten b\u00f6yle bir \u015fey m\u00fcmk\u00fcn de\u011fildir. As\u0131l \u00f6nemli olan, \u00e7ocu\u011fun kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda hata yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda bunu kabul eden, gerekti\u011finde \u00f6z\u00fcr dileyen ve de\u011fi\u015fmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan bir yeti\u015fkin<\/strong> olabilmektir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u00e7ocuklar yaln\u0131zca do\u011fru davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 de\u011fil, bir insan\u0131n kendisini nas\u0131l geli\u015ftirdi\u011fini de \u00f6\u011frenir.<\/p>\n

\u00d6rne\u011fin \u00e7ocu\u011fundan sakin olmas\u0131n\u0131 isteyen ama k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir aksilikte hemen ba\u011f\u0131ran bir ebeveyni d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnelim. \u00c7ocuk, s\u00f6ylenen \u201csakin ol\u201d c\u00fcmlesinden \u00e7ok, kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 sorun kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda g\u00f6sterilen tepkiyi haf\u0131zas\u0131na yerle\u015ftirebilir. Buna kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k ebeveyn bir g\u00fcn \u00f6fkelendi\u011finde durup \u201c\u015eu anda \u00e7ok sinirlendim, biraz sakinle\u015fip konu\u015faca\u011f\u0131m.\u201d diyebilirse \u00e7ocu\u011funa \u00e7ok de\u011ferli bir davran\u0131\u015f modeli sunar. Robert Fulghum\u2019un s\u00f6z\u00fc bu nedenle yaln\u0131zca \u00e7ocuk yeti\u015ftirme \u00fczerine de\u011fil, nas\u0131l bir insan oldu\u011fumuz ve \u00e7evremizdeki insanlar\u0131 nas\u0131l etkiledi\u011fimiz \u00fczerine de d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcr\u00fcr.<\/strong> \u00c7ocuklar bizi her zaman dinlemeyebilir; fakat bizi izlerler. Bu y\u00fczden onlara b\u0131rakaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z en g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc miras, s\u00f6ylediklerimizden \u00f6nce nas\u0131l ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zd\u0131r.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

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Robert Fulghum Kimdir?<\/h3>\n

Robert Fulghum (1937-) Amerikal\u0131 yazar, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr, konu\u015fmac\u0131 ve Unitarian Universalist din g\u00f6revlisidir. Fulghum, yazarl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n yan\u0131 s\u0131ra \u00f6\u011fretmenlik, sanat e\u011fitmenli\u011fi, IBM’de sat\u0131\u015f temsilcili\u011fi ve din g\u00f6revlili\u011fi gibi farkl\u0131 i\u015flerde \u00e7al\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. \u00d6zellikle 1988’de yay\u0131mlanan All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten<\/em> adl\u0131 kitab\u0131yla geni\u015f bir okur kitlesine ula\u015fm\u0131\u015f; eserinde payla\u015fmak, adil olmak, \u00f6z\u00fcr dilemek, sorumluluk almak ve birlikte ya\u015famak gibi temel insani de\u011ferleri \u00e7ocukluk deneyimleri \u00fczerinden ele alm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Fulghum’un yaz\u0131lar\u0131nda g\u00fcndelik ya\u015fam\u0131n basit g\u00f6r\u00fcnen ayr\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131ndan daha derin insani ve ahlaki anlamlar \u00e7\u0131karma yakla\u015f\u0131m\u0131 \u00f6ne \u00e7\u0131kar.<\/p>\n

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E\u011fitim ve \u00d6\u011fretimle \u0130lgili En \u0130yi \u00d6zl\u00fc S\u00f6zler<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n