{"id":42705,"date":"2021-07-30T14:49:13","date_gmt":"2021-07-30T14:49:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/?p=42705"},"modified":"2026-03-01T12:27:20","modified_gmt":"2026-03-01T12:27:20","slug":"ask-alev-almis-dostluktur-o-sessiz-bir-anlayis-karsilikli-guven-paylasim-ve-bagislamadir","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/en\/ask-alev-almis-dostluktur-o-sessiz-bir-anlayis-karsilikli-guven-paylasim-ve-bagislamadir.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cLove is friendship on fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual trust, sharing and forgiveness. It is loyalty in good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and allows human weaknesses.\u201d Ann Landers"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cLove is friendship on fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual trust, sharing and forgiveness. It is loyalty in good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and allows human weaknesses.\u201d Ann Landers<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

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Ann Landers bu s\u00f6z\u00fcyle<\/span><\/span>\u00a0a\u015fk\u0131 romantik bir masaldan \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131p olgun bir ili\u015fki tan\u0131m\u0131na d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr\u00fcr. Bu s\u00f6z bize \u015funu hat\u0131rlat\u0131r: Ger\u00e7ek a\u015fk, heyecan\u0131n \u00f6tesinde bir dostluk derinli\u011fidir.<\/strong> Tutku zamanla d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015febilir; fakat anlay\u0131\u015f, g\u00fcven ve ba\u011f\u0131\u015flama varsa ili\u015fki k\u00f6k salar. A\u015fk; kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdakini kusursuz g\u00f6rmek de\u011fil, kusurlar\u0131yla kabul edebilmektir. Motivasyon ve ki\u015fisel geli\u015fim a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan bakarsak, sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir ili\u015fki iki insan\u0131n da b\u00fcy\u00fcmesine alan tan\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc sevgi, bask\u0131 de\u011fil; destek \u00fcretir.<\/p>\n

Bu s\u00f6zden ilhamla g\u00fcnl\u00fck hayatta uygulayabilece\u011fimiz tek bir pratik \u00f6neri \u015fu: Haftada bir kez \u201cbilin\u00e7li dinleme zaman\u0131\u201d olu\u015fturun. Telefonlar\u0131 bir kenara b\u0131rak\u0131n ve sadece birbirinizi dinleyin. Savunmaya ge\u00e7meden, \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm \u00fcretmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmadan\u2026 Sadece anlamaya odaklanarak. Anla\u015f\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 hissetmek, sevildi\u011fini hissetmenin temelidir.<\/strong> \u0130li\u015fkilerde g\u00fcven ve sadakat, b\u00fcy\u00fck jestlerle de\u011fil; d\u00fczenli ve samimi temaslarla g\u00fc\u00e7lenir. Bu k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ama istikrarl\u0131 ad\u0131m, a\u015fk\u0131n dostluk zeminini sa\u011flamla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Diyelim ki zor bir d\u00f6nemden ge\u00e7iyorsunuz. \u0130\u015f stresi, maddi kayg\u0131lar ya da ki\u015fisel yorgunluk\u2026 E\u011fer ili\u015fkinizde dostluk varsa, bu s\u00fcre\u00e7 sizi ay\u0131rmaz; aksine yak\u0131nla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131r. Birbirinizin zay\u0131fl\u0131klar\u0131na alan a\u00e7t\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda, k\u0131r\u0131lganl\u0131k ba\u011f kurman\u0131n arac\u0131 olur. Tart\u0131\u015fmalar bile y\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 de\u011fil, \u00f6\u011fretici h\u00e2le gelir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc temel sa\u011flamd\u0131r. A\u015fk; kusursuz iki insan\u0131n de\u011fil, birbirinin kusuruna \u015fefkatle yakla\u015fabilen iki dostun yol arkada\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131d\u0131r.<\/strong><\/em> Ann Landers<\/span><\/span>\u2019\u0131n bu yakla\u015f\u0131m\u0131, sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 ili\u015fki ve uzun vadeli mutluluk arayan herkes i\u00e7in g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir rehberdir.<\/p>\n

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Ann Landers Kimdir?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Ann Landers<\/span><\/span> (1918-2002) Amerikal\u0131 gazeteci ve tavsiye yazar\u0131d\u0131r. Ger\u00e7ek ad\u0131 Esther Pauline Friedman\u2019d\u0131r. Y\u0131llarca gazetelerde yay\u0131mlanan k\u00f6\u015fe yaz\u0131lar\u0131nda okuyucular\u0131n ili\u015fki, aile ve ya\u015fam sorunlar\u0131na verdi\u011fi samimi ve pratik yan\u0131tlarla tan\u0131nm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. \u0130leti\u015fim, evlilik ve insan ili\u015fkileri konusundaki g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fleriyle geni\u015f bir okur kitlesine ula\u015fm\u0131\u015f ve modern tavsiye yazarl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6nc\u00fclerinden biri olmu\u015ftur.<\/p>\n

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A\u015fk ve Sevgi \u00dczerine En \u0130yi \u00d6zl\u00fc S\u00f6zler<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n