{"id":41042,"date":"2020-12-25T09:53:54","date_gmt":"2020-12-25T09:53:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/?p=41042"},"modified":"2026-02-06T13:23:09","modified_gmt":"2026-02-06T13:23:09","slug":"bagislamak-bir-mahkumu-serbest-birakmak-ve-o-mahkumun-siz-oldugunu-kesfetmektir-lewis-b-smedes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/en\/bagislamak-bir-mahkumu-serbest-birakmak-ve-o-mahkumun-siz-oldugunu-kesfetmektir-lewis-b-smedes.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cForgiveness is releasing a prisoner and discovering that that prisoner is you.\u201d Lewis B. Smedes"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cForgiveness is releasing a prisoner and discovering that that prisoner is you.\u201d Lewis B. Smedes<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/h3>\n

\"\"<\/a><\/p>\n

Lewis B. Smedes bu s\u00f6z\u00fcyle ba\u011f\u0131\u015flaman\u0131n y\u00f6n\u00fcn\u00fc tersine \u00e7evirir. \u00c7o\u011fu zaman affetmeyi, kar\u015f\u0131 tarafa yap\u0131lm\u0131\u015f bir iyilik gibi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u00fcz; oysa affetmedi\u011fimizde zincirlenen asl\u0131nda kendi i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyam\u0131zd\u0131r<\/strong>. K\u0131rg\u0131nl\u0131k, \u00f6fke ve kin; ge\u00e7mi\u015fte ya\u015fanan bir olay\u0131n bug\u00fcnk\u00fc ruh h\u00e2limizi rehin almas\u0131na neden olur. Ba\u011f\u0131\u015flamamak, bizi hakl\u0131 k\u0131labilir ama \u00f6zg\u00fcr k\u0131lmaz. Smedes\u2019in alt\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7izdi\u011fi ger\u00e7ek \u015fudur: Ba\u011f\u0131\u015flama, unutmak de\u011fil; y\u00fck\u00fc art\u0131k ta\u015f\u0131mamay\u0131 se\u00e7mektir.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Bu s\u00f6zden ilhamla g\u00fcnl\u00fck hayatta uygulayabilece\u011fimiz pratik bir \u00f6neri \u015fudur: Sizi h\u00e2l\u00e2 i\u00e7ten i\u00e7e yoran bir olay\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn ve kendinize \u015fu c\u00fcmleyi yaz\u0131n: \u201cBu ya\u015fanan bana ne \u00f6\u011fretti ve bug\u00fcn beni nas\u0131l daha g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc k\u0131ld\u0131?\u201d<\/strong> Ard\u0131ndan o ki\u015fiye g\u00f6ndermeyece\u011finiz bir mektup yaz\u0131n; i\u00e7inizden ge\u00e7enleri sans\u00fcrlemeden d\u00f6k\u00fcn ve mektubu saklay\u0131n ya da imha edin. Ama\u00e7 kar\u015f\u0131 taraf\u0131 aklamak de\u011fil, kendi zihninizi serbest b\u0131rakmakt\u0131r<\/strong>. Bu k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck rit\u00fcel, ba\u011f\u0131\u015flamaya giden yolu a\u00e7ar.<\/p>\n

\u00d6rne\u011fin y\u0131llar \u00f6nce ya\u015fanm\u0131\u015f bir haks\u0131zl\u0131k, bug\u00fcn h\u00e2l\u00e2 kararlar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 etkiliyorsa; asl\u0131nda o olay bitmemi\u015f demektir. Oysa ba\u011f\u0131\u015flamak, ya\u015fanan\u0131 onaylamak de\u011fil, hayat enerjinizi geri almakt\u0131r<\/strong>. Lewis B. Smedes\u2019in dedi\u011fi gibi: Affetti\u011fimizde d\u0131\u015far\u0131daki kap\u0131y\u0131 a\u00e7ar\u0131z ama \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcne kavu\u015fan, i\u00e7erideki biz oluruz.<\/em><\/strong> Ba\u011f\u0131\u015flama cesaret ister; ama bu cesaret, insan\u0131n kendine yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 en derin iyiliklerden biridir.<\/p>\n

\n

Lewis B. Smedes Kimdir?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Lewis B. Smedes (1921\u20132002), Amerikal\u0131 bir ilahiyat\u00e7\u0131, yazar ve etik profes\u00f6r\u00fcd\u00fcr. \u00d6zellikle ba\u011f\u0131\u015flama, su\u00e7luluk, utan\u00e7 ve ahlaki iyile\u015fme<\/strong> konular\u0131nda yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalarla tan\u0131n\u0131r. \u201cForgive and Forget\u201d<\/em> (Ba\u011f\u0131\u015fla ve \u00d6zg\u00fcrle\u015f) gibi eserlerinde affetmenin psikolojik ve ruhsal boyutlar\u0131n\u0131 ele alm\u0131\u015f, ba\u011f\u0131\u015flamay\u0131 insan\u0131n kendini iyile\u015ftirme s\u00fcreci olarak tan\u0131mlam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Smedes\u2019e g\u00f6re ba\u011f\u0131\u015flama; zay\u0131fl\u0131k de\u011fil, i\u00e7sel g\u00fc\u00e7 ve bilin\u00e7li bir \u00f6zg\u00fcrle\u015fme eylemidir<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Personal Development Quotations<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n