{"id":40624,"date":"2020-11-10T17:45:16","date_gmt":"2020-11-10T17:45:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/?p=40624"},"modified":"2026-01-27T09:03:25","modified_gmt":"2026-01-27T09:03:25","slug":"ne-kadar-cok-karar-vermek-zorunda-kalirsaniz-secme-ozgurlugunuzun-o-kadar-cok-farkina-varirsiniz-thornton-wilder","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/en\/ne-kadar-cok-karar-vermek-zorunda-kalirsaniz-secme-ozgurlugunuzun-o-kadar-cok-farkina-varirsiniz-thornton-wilder.html","title":{"rendered":"“Ne kadar \u00e7ok karar vermek zorunda kal\u0131rsan\u0131z, se\u00e7me \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fcn o kadar \u00e7ok fark\u0131na var\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z.” Thornton Wilder"},"content":{"rendered":"

“Ne kadar \u00e7ok karar vermek zorunda kal\u0131rsan\u0131z, se\u00e7me \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fcn o kadar \u00e7ok fark\u0131na var\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z.” Thornton Wilder<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

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Bu s\u00f6z\u00fcyle Thornton Wilder, \u00e7o\u011fu zaman g\u00f6zden ka\u00e7\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bir ger\u00e7e\u011fe i\u015faret eder: Hayat bize y\u00fck bindirdik\u00e7e asl\u0131nda sorumluluklar\u0131m\u0131z de\u011fil, \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck alan\u0131m\u0131z<\/strong> geni\u015fler. Karar vermek zorunda kalmak ilk bak\u0131\u015fta yorucu, hatta bunalt\u0131c\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcnebilir. Oysa her karar an\u0131, bize \u201cse\u00e7ebilirim\u201d duygusunu hat\u0131rlatan g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir fark\u0131ndal\u0131k kap\u0131s\u0131d\u0131r. Siz ve biz, \u00e7o\u011fu zaman karars\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir y\u00fck gibi ya\u015far\u0131z; fakat Wilder\u2019\u0131n i\u015faret etti\u011fi yerde, kararlar birer bask\u0131 de\u011fil, iradenin g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr hale geldi\u011fi e\u015fiklerdir<\/strong>. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck, se\u00e7eneklerin yoklu\u011funda de\u011fil, se\u00e7eneklerin sorumlulu\u011funu alabildi\u011fimiz anda ortaya \u00e7\u0131kar.<\/p>\n

Bu s\u00f6zden ilhamla g\u00fcnl\u00fck hayatta uygulayabilece\u011fimiz basit ama etkili bir pratik \u00f6neri \u015fudur: G\u00fcn i\u00e7inde sizi zorlayan tek bir karar\u0131 bilin\u00e7li olarak yava\u015flat\u0131n. Aceleyle se\u00e7mek yerine, kendinize \u015fu soruyu sorun: \u201cBu karar bana neyi se\u00e7me \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc sunuyor?\u201d<\/strong> Bu yakla\u015f\u0131m, karar verme s\u00fcrecini bir stres kayna\u011f\u0131 olmaktan \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131r ve onu bir fark\u0131ndal\u0131k egzersizine d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr\u00fcr. Siz karar\u0131n sonucuna de\u011fil, karar an\u0131ndaki duru\u015funuza odakland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda, kontrol duygunuz g\u00fc\u00e7lenir. Biz, bu k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck zihinsel duraklamayla bile \u00f6zg\u00fcr irade<\/strong> kas\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 her g\u00fcn biraz daha geli\u015ftirebiliriz.<\/p>\n

\u00d6rne\u011fin i\u015f de\u011fi\u015fikli\u011fi, ili\u015fkiyle ilgili bir ad\u0131m ya da hayat\u0131n y\u00f6n\u00fcn\u00fc etkileyen bir se\u00e7im\u2026 Bu t\u00fcr anlarda \u00e7o\u011fumuz \u201cke\u015fke karar vermek zorunda kalmasam\u201d diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u00fcz. Oysa tam da bu noktada, Wilder\u2019\u0131n s\u00f6z\u00fc devreye girer: Kararlar\u0131n \u00e7oklu\u011fu, \u00e7aresizli\u011fin de\u011fil; se\u00e7ebilme g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fcn kan\u0131t\u0131d\u0131r.<\/strong> Siz ve biz, karar vermekten ka\u00e7mak yerine onun i\u00e7indeki \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck alan\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fczde, ya\u015fam daha anlaml\u0131 bir ak\u0131\u015f kazan\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc fark\u0131na vard\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z her karar, bize ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n de\u011fil, kendi hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n direksiyonunda oldu\u011fumuzu hat\u0131rlat\u0131r.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

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Thornton Wilder Kimdir?<\/strong>
Thornton Wilder (1897\u20131975), Amerikal\u0131 romanc\u0131 ve oyun yazar\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130nsan ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131n s\u0131radan gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcnen anlar\u0131ndaki derin anlam\u0131 ortaya koymas\u0131yla tan\u0131n\u0131r. Pulitzer \u00d6d\u00fcl\u00fc\u2019n\u00fc \u00fc\u00e7 kez kazanan Wilder, eserlerinde se\u00e7imler, insan \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc, zaman ve ya\u015fam\u0131n anlam\u0131<\/strong> gibi evrensel temalar\u0131 sade ama \u00e7arp\u0131c\u0131 bir dille ele alm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Onun d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesinde karar vermek, insan\u0131n kaderle de\u011fil, kendi bilinciyle kurdu\u011fu ili\u015fkinin en g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc g\u00f6stergelerinden biridir.<\/p>\n

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Se\u00e7imler ve Kararlar \u00dczerine \u00d6zl\u00fc S\u00f6zler<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n