{"id":39813,"date":"2020-09-03T11:50:29","date_gmt":"2020-09-03T11:50:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/?p=39813"},"modified":"2026-02-22T10:48:29","modified_gmt":"2026-02-22T10:48:29","slug":"kaybettik-cunku-kendimize-kaybettigimizi-soyledik-lev-tolstoy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/en\/kaybettik-cunku-kendimize-kaybettigimizi-soyledik-lev-tolstoy.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cWe lost because we told ourselves we lost.\u201d Leo Tolstoy"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cWe lost because we told ourselves we lost.\u201d Leo Tolstoy<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/h3>\n

\""Kaybettik,<\/a><\/p>\n

ozdeyis.net<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n

\u201cKaybettik, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc kendimize kaybetti\u011fimizi s\u00f6yledik.\u201d s\u00f6z\u00fc, Leo Tolstoy<\/span><\/span>\u2019un insan psikolojisine dair derin sezgisini yans\u0131t\u0131r. Bu c\u00fcmle, yenilginin \u00e7o\u011fu zaman d\u0131\u015f ko\u015fullardan \u00f6nce zihinde ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlat\u0131r. \u0130nsan, \u00f6nce i\u00e7 sesinde teslim olur; sonra hayatta geri \u00e7ekilir. Oysa ger\u00e7ek kay\u0131p, sonu\u00e7tan \u00e7ok inan\u00e7la ilgilidir. Zihnimizde kurdu\u011fumuz c\u00fcmleler, kaderimizin y\u00f6n\u00fcn\u00fc belirler.<\/strong> Ki\u015fisel geli\u015fim ve motivasyon s\u00fcrecinde en g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc ya da en y\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 etken, kendimize s\u00f6yledi\u011fimiz hik\u00e2yedir. \u201cYapamam\u201d dedi\u011fimiz anda potansiyelimizi kilitleriz; \u201cHen\u00fcz olmad\u0131\u201d dedi\u011fimizde ise s\u00fcreci a\u00e7\u0131k tutar\u0131z.<\/p>\n

Bu s\u00f6zden ilhamla g\u00fcnl\u00fck hayatta uygulayabilece\u011fimiz tek bir pratik \u00f6neri \u015fudur: \u0130\u00e7 konu\u015fma fark\u0131ndal\u0131\u011f\u0131 geli\u015ftirin.<\/strong> G\u00fcn i\u00e7inde zor bir durum ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda zihninizden ge\u00e7en ilk c\u00fcmleyi yakalay\u0131n. E\u011fer o c\u00fcmle \u201cBen zaten ba\u015faramam\u201d gibi kesin ve olumsuz bir yarg\u0131ysa, bilin\u00e7li olarak onu yeniden \u00e7er\u00e7eveleyin: \u201c\u015eu an zorlan\u0131yorum ama \u00f6\u011frenebilirim.\u201d Bu k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck dil de\u011fi\u015fimi, beynin savunma modundan geli\u015fim moduna ge\u00e7mesini sa\u011flar. Motivasyon, bazen sadece bir kelimeyi de\u011fi\u015ftirmekle ba\u015flar.<\/p>\n

\u00d6rne\u011fin bir giri\u015fimde bulundunuz ve bekledi\u011finiz sonucu alamad\u0131n\u0131z. \u201cKaybettim\u201d derseniz, s\u00fcre\u00e7 kapan\u0131r. Ama \u201cBu denemede istedi\u011fim sonucu alamad\u0131m\u201d derseniz, kap\u0131 aral\u0131k kal\u0131r. Aradaki fark k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fckt\u00fcr ama etkisi b\u00fcy\u00fckt\u00fcr. Lev Tolstoy\u2019un i\u015faret etti\u011fi hakikat \u015fudur: Ger\u00e7ek yenilgi, d\u0131\u015far\u0131da ya\u015fanmaz; i\u00e7eride kabul edildi\u011fi anda ba\u015flar.<\/strong><\/em> Ve biz, i\u00e7 sesimizi d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcrd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fczde, sonu\u00e7lar\u0131 da d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcrme g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fc elimize al\u0131r\u0131z.<\/p>\n

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Lev Tolstoy Kimdir?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Leo Tolstoy<\/span><\/span> (1828-1910) Rus romanc\u0131, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr ve filozofudur. \u201cSava\u015f ve Bar\u0131\u015f\u201d ile \u201cAnna Karenina\u201d gibi d\u00fcnya edebiyat\u0131n\u0131n ba\u015fyap\u0131tlar\u0131 aras\u0131nda kabul edilen eserlerin yazar\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130nsan do\u011fas\u0131, ahlak, inan\u00e7 ve toplum \u00fczerine derin analizleriyle tan\u0131nm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Edebiyat tarihinin en etkili yazarlar\u0131ndan biri olarak kabul edilir.<\/p>\n

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\u201cWinners are only losers who try one more time.\u201d George Moore<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n