{"id":3748,"date":"2014-11-01T13:14:33","date_gmt":"2014-11-01T11:14:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.ozdeyis.net\/?p=3748"},"modified":"2026-02-14T16:43:42","modified_gmt":"2026-02-14T16:43:42","slug":"aciya-kahkaha-atabilmek-bir-sanatsa-eger-ben-cok-pahali-bir-tabloyum-charles-bukowski","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/en\/aciya-kahkaha-atabilmek-bir-sanatsa-eger-ben-cok-pahali-bir-tabloyum-charles-bukowski.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cIf being able to laugh at pain is an art; I am a very expensive painting.\u201d Charles Bukowski"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cIf being able to laugh at pain is an art; I am a very expensive painting.\u201d Charles Bukowski<\/strong><\/em><\/h3>\n

\""Nas\u0131l<\/a><\/p>\n

Charles Bukowski bu s\u00f6z\u00fcyle, hayat\u0131n sert y\u00fcz\u00fcne meydan okuyan bir ruh h\u00e2lini anlat\u0131r. Ac\u0131dan ka\u00e7mak kolayd\u0131r; ama ac\u0131n\u0131n i\u00e7ine bak\u0131p orada bir ironi, bir g\u00fc\u00e7, hatta bir mizah bulabilmek ustal\u0131k ister. Ac\u0131ya kahkaha atmak, ink\u00e2r etmek de\u011fil; onu d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcrmektir.<\/strong> Bukowski\u2019nin d\u00fcnyas\u0131nda k\u0131r\u0131lganl\u0131k zay\u0131fl\u0131k de\u011fildir; aksine insan\u0131n ger\u00e7ekli\u011fidir. Bu s\u00f6z, ki\u015fisel geli\u015fim ve motivasyon a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan \u00f6nemli bir mesaj ta\u015f\u0131r: Ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z zorluklar bizi de\u011fersiz yapmaz, tam tersine derinle\u015ftirir. E\u011fer ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 anlamland\u0131rabiliyor ve i\u00e7imizde bir tebess\u00fcm alan\u0131 a\u00e7abiliyorsak, o zaman ger\u00e7ekten \u201cpahal\u0131\u201d bir tabloya d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr\u00fcz.<\/p>\n

Bu s\u00f6zden ilhamla g\u00fcnl\u00fck hayatta uygulayabilece\u011fimiz tek bir pratik \u00f6neri: Ac\u0131 g\u00fcnl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc de\u011fil, d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm g\u00fcnl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc tutmak.<\/strong> Zor bir g\u00fcn ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda sadece \u201cNe k\u00f6t\u00fcyd\u00fc\u201d diye yazmak yerine \u015fu soruya cevap verin: \u201cBu olay bana ne \u00f6\u011fretti?\u201d Ard\u0131ndan o olayla ilgili mizahi bir ba\u015fl\u0131k at\u0131n. K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir ironi bile olsa\u2026 \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc mizah, psikolojik dayan\u0131kl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n gizli kas\u0131d\u0131r.<\/strong> O kas\u0131 \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131rd\u0131k\u00e7a, hayat\u0131n y\u00fck\u00fc hafiflemez belki ama siz g\u00fc\u00e7lenirsiniz. Bu y\u00f6ntem, travmay\u0131 k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsemek de\u011fil; onun kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda i\u00e7sel duru\u015f geli\u015ftirmektir.<\/p>\n

Diyelim ki bir i\u015f g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmesinde bekledi\u011finiz sonucu alamad\u0131n\u0131z. \u0130lk tepki hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131d\u0131r. Ama birka\u00e7 g\u00fcn sonra d\u00f6n\u00fcp bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda, o g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmenin sizi daha iyi haz\u0131rlanm\u0131\u015f bir versiyonunuza ta\u015f\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 fark edebilirsiniz. Hatta kendi kendinize \u201cDemek ki evren CV\u2019mi revize ettiriyormu\u015f\u201d diye g\u00fcl\u00fcmseyebilirsiniz. \u0130\u015fte o an bir k\u0131r\u0131lma ya\u015fan\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc biz ac\u0131n\u0131n bizi tan\u0131mlamas\u0131na izin vermek yerine, onu karakterimizin bir f\u0131r\u00e7a darbesi yapar\u0131z. Ve sonunda \u015funu g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fcz: Ac\u0131y\u0131 ink\u00e2r eden de\u011fil, onu d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcren insan g\u00fc\u00e7lenir.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

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Charles Bukowski Kimdir?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Charles Bukowski (1920-1994) Alman as\u0131ll\u0131 Amerikal\u0131 \u015fair, romanc\u0131 ve k\u0131sa \u00f6yk\u00fc yazar\u0131d\u0131r. Eserlerinde s\u0131radan insanlar\u0131n hayat\u0131n\u0131, yaln\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131, alkol\u00fc, a\u015fk\u0131 ve toplumsal d\u0131\u015flanm\u0131\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00e7arp\u0131c\u0131 bir ger\u00e7ek\u00e7ilikle i\u015flemi\u015ftir. Sert, do\u011frudan ve filtresiz anlat\u0131m\u0131yla modern edebiyatta kendine \u00f6zg\u00fc bir yer edinmi\u015ftir. Bukowski, ac\u0131y\u0131 romantize etmeden ama ondan ka\u00e7madan yazan bir yazar olarak, dayan\u0131kl\u0131l\u0131k ve i\u00e7sel g\u00fc\u00e7 temas\u0131n\u0131 edebiyat\u0131nda g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bi\u00e7imde yans\u0131tm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p>\n

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Self Confidence Quotations<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n