{"id":3726,"date":"2014-11-01T01:37:10","date_gmt":"2014-10-31T23:37:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.ozdeyis.net\/?p=3726"},"modified":"2026-07-03T10:36:27","modified_gmt":"2026-07-03T10:36:27","slug":"sefkatli-ol-karsilastigin-herkes-zor-bir-mucadele-veriyor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/en\/sefkatli-ol-karsilastigin-herkes-zor-bir-mucadele-veriyor.html","title":{"rendered":"“\u015eefkatli ol, kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n herkes zor bir m\u00fccadele veriyor.” Ian Maclaren"},"content":{"rendered":"

“\u015eefkatli ol, kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n herkes zor bir m\u00fccadele veriyor.” Ian Maclaren<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

\""Nas\u0131l<\/a><\/p>\n

“\u015eefkatli ol, kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n herkes zor bir m\u00fccadele veriyor.”<\/strong> s\u00f6z\u00fcyle Ian Maclaren (John Watson)<\/strong>, insanlar\u0131n d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan g\u00f6r\u00fcnen h\u00e2lleriyle i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyalar\u0131n\u0131n her zaman ayn\u0131 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 hat\u0131rlat\u0131r. G\u00fcl\u00fcmseyen bir y\u00fcz\u00fcn ard\u0131nda b\u00fcy\u00fck bir kay\u0131p, sessiz kalan bir insan\u0131n i\u00e7inde derin bir kayg\u0131 ya da \u00f6fkeli g\u00f6r\u00fcnen bir ki\u015finin kalbinde g\u00f6r\u00fcnmeyen yaralar olabilir. Hi\u00e7 kimsenin hayat hik\u00e2yesini birka\u00e7 dakikal\u0131k bir kar\u015f\u0131la\u015fmayla anlayamay\u0131z.<\/strong> Bu nedenle yarg\u0131lamak yerine anlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak, k\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 olmak yerine nazik davranmak ve aceleyle h\u00fck\u00fcm vermek yerine empati kurmak hem ili\u015fkilerimizi hem de ya\u015fam kalitemizi g\u00fc\u00e7lendirir. \u015eefkat, yaln\u0131zca ba\u015fkalar\u0131na de\u011fil, ayn\u0131 zamanda insanl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131za da yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u00f6nemli bir yat\u0131r\u0131md\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Bu s\u00f6zden ilham alarak g\u00fcnl\u00fck ya\u015famda uygulayabilece\u011fimiz pratik bir \u00f6neri, her g\u00fcn en az bir ki\u015fiye bilin\u00e7li bir nezaket g\u00f6stermek<\/strong> olabilir. Bu, yo\u011fun \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan bir i\u015f arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131za i\u00e7ten bir te\u015fekk\u00fcr etmek, kasiyere samimi bir g\u00fcl\u00fcmsemeyle “Kolay gelsin.” demek ya da moralinin bozuk oldu\u011funu hissetti\u011finiz bir dostunuza “\u0130stersen seni dinleyebilirim.” diye mesaj atmak kadar basit olabilir. K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck g\u00f6r\u00fcnen bu davran\u0131\u015flar, kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdaki insan\u0131n g\u00fcn\u00fcn\u00fc de\u011fi\u015ftirebilir. \u015eefkat \u00e7o\u011fu zaman b\u00fcy\u00fck fedak\u00e2rl\u0131klar de\u011fil, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ama i\u00e7ten davran\u0131\u015flarla hayat bulur.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00d6rne\u011fin trafikte \u00f6n\u00fcn\u00fcze aniden k\u0131ran bir s\u00fcr\u00fcc\u00fcye hemen \u00f6fkelenmek yerine, belki de acil bir duruma yeti\u015fmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yor olabilece\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmek bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirebilir. Elbette her davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 mazur g\u00f6rmek gerekmez; ancak insanlar\u0131n g\u00f6r\u00fcnmeyen m\u00fccadelelerini ak\u0131lda tutmak, daha sakin ve anlay\u0131\u015fl\u0131 tepkiler vermemize yard\u0131mc\u0131 olur. Ian Maclaren’in bu s\u00f6z\u00fc bize, her insan\u0131n g\u00f6r\u00fcnmeyen bir y\u00fck ta\u015f\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ve bazen g\u00f6sterece\u011fimiz k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir \u015fefkatin, bir ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n en zor g\u00fcn\u00fcnde umuda d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015febilece\u011fini hat\u0131rlat\u0131r. D\u00fcnyay\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftiren \u00e7o\u011fu zaman b\u00fcy\u00fck g\u00fc\u00e7ler de\u011fil, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck iyiliklerdir.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

\n

Ian Maclaren (John Watson) Kimdir?<\/h2>\n

Ian Maclaren (1850-1907), ger\u00e7ek ad\u0131yla John Watson, \u0130sko\u00e7 yazar, din adam\u0131 ve hatiptir. Eserlerinde insan ili\u015fkileri, ahlaki de\u011ferler, merhamet ve g\u00fcnl\u00fck ya\u015fam\u0131n insani y\u00f6nlerini sade ama etkileyici bir dille ele alm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. En \u00e7ok, insanlara kar\u015f\u0131 anlay\u0131\u015fl\u0131 ve \u015fefkatli olmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011f\u00fctleyen \u00f6zl\u00fc s\u00f6zleriyle tan\u0131nmaktad\u0131r. G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczde \u00f6zellikle empati, ki\u015fisel geli\u015fim ve psikoloji alanlar\u0131nda s\u0131k\u00e7a payla\u015f\u0131lan d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceleri, insanlar\u0131n birbirine daha anlay\u0131\u015fl\u0131 yakla\u015fmas\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6nemini vurgulamaya devam etmektedir.<\/p>\n

\n

\u0130nsanlara Dair \u00d6zl\u00fc S\u00f6zler ve \u00d6zdeyi\u015fler<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n