{"id":34318,"date":"2018-12-18T02:34:34","date_gmt":"2018-12-18T02:34:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/?p=34318"},"modified":"2026-03-24T20:11:53","modified_gmt":"2026-03-24T20:11:53","slug":"mutluluk-bir-secimdir-sonuc-degil-mutlu-olmayi-secene-kadar-hicbir-sey-sizi-mutlu-etmeyecektir-mutlu-olmaya-karar-vermedikce-hic-kimse-sizi-mutlu-edemez-mutlulugunuz-size-gelmeyecek-o-sadece-s","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/en\/mutluluk-bir-secimdir-sonuc-degil-mutlu-olmayi-secene-kadar-hicbir-sey-sizi-mutlu-etmeyecektir-mutlu-olmaya-karar-vermedikce-hic-kimse-sizi-mutlu-edemez-mutlulugunuz-size-gelmeyecek-o-sadece-s.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cHappiness is a choice, not an outcome. Nothing will make you happy until you choose to be happy. No one can make you happy unless you decide to be happy. Your happiness will not come to you. It can only come from you.\u201d Ralph Marston"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cHappiness is a choice, not an outcome. Nothing will make you happy until you choose to be happy. No one can make you happy unless you decide to be happy. Your happiness will not come to you. It can only come from you.\u201d Ralph Marston<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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\u201cMutluluk bir se\u00e7imdir, sonu\u00e7 de\u011fil\u201d s\u00f6z\u00fcyle Ralph Marston<\/span><\/span>, mutlulu\u011fu d\u0131\u015f ko\u015fullar\u0131n \u00f6d\u00fcl\u00fc olarak de\u011fil, i\u00e7sel bir tutum olarak yeniden tan\u0131mlar. \u00c7o\u011fu zaman mutlu olmak i\u00e7in do\u011fru zaman\u0131, do\u011fru insanlar\u0131 ya da sorunlar\u0131n tamamen bitmesini bekleriz. Oysa bu bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131, mutlulu\u011fu s\u00fcrekli ertelenen bir hedefe d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr\u00fcr. Marston\u2019un vurgulad\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u015fey \u015fudur: Mutluluk, hayat\u0131m\u0131zdaki her \u015fey d\u00fczeldi\u011finde ortaya \u00e7\u0131kan bir sonu\u00e7 de\u011fil; hayata nas\u0131l yakla\u015fmay\u0131 se\u00e7ti\u011fimizin bir \u00fcr\u00fcn\u00fcd\u00fcr.<\/strong> \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc d\u0131\u015f d\u00fcnya de\u011fi\u015fken, belirsiz ve \u00e7o\u011fu zaman kontrol\u00fcm\u00fcz d\u0131\u015f\u0131ndad\u0131r. Kontrol edebildi\u011fimiz tek alan ise d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerimiz, yorumlar\u0131m\u0131z ve verdi\u011fimiz tepkilerdir. Bu nedenle mutluluk, bir g\u00fcn kap\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 \u00e7alacak bir misafir de\u011fil; her g\u00fcn bilin\u00e7li olarak davet etti\u011fimiz bir ruh h\u00e2lidir.<\/p>\n

Peki bu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceyi g\u00fcnl\u00fck ya\u015famda nas\u0131l somutla\u015ft\u0131rabiliriz? Basit ama g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir uygulama \u00f6nerelim: \u201cG\u00fcn\u00fcn Ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7 Se\u00e7imi\u201d al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131.<\/strong> Sabah uyand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda hen\u00fcz telefonunuza bakmadan kendinize \u015fu soruyu sorun: \u201cBug\u00fcn hangi ruh h\u00e2liyle ya\u015fayaca\u011f\u0131m?\u201d<\/em> Ard\u0131ndan bilin\u00e7li bir karar verin: sab\u0131rl\u0131 olmak, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u015feylerden keyif almak ya da \u015f\u00fckretmek gibi tek bir duygusal niyet belirleyin. G\u00fcn i\u00e7inde kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z olaylar de\u011fi\u015fmeyecektir; fakat onlar\u0131 yorumlama bi\u00e7iminiz de\u011fi\u015fecektir. Ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar da g\u00f6steriyor ki zihnimiz, g\u00fcn\u00fcn ba\u015f\u0131nda belirledi\u011fimiz niyete uygun deneyimleri fark etmeye daha yatk\u0131n h\u00e2le gelir. Yani mutluluk \u00e7o\u011fu zaman \u015fartlar\u0131n de\u011fil, dikkatin y\u00f6n\u00fcn\u00fcn de\u011fi\u015fmesiyle b\u00fcy\u00fcr.<\/strong><\/p>\n

G\u00fcnl\u00fck hayatta bunu kolayca g\u00f6zlemleyebiliriz. Ayn\u0131 trafikte iki insan d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn: biri ya\u015fanan gecikmeyi \u00f6fke nedeni olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcrken di\u011feri bu zaman\u0131 sevdi\u011fi bir m\u00fczi\u011fi dinlemek i\u00e7in f\u0131rsata \u00e7evirebilir. Olay ayn\u0131d\u0131r, deneyim tamamen farkl\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130\u015fte Ralph Marston\u2019un s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn \u00f6z\u00fc burada sakl\u0131d\u0131r: mutluluk d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan gelen bir \u00f6d\u00fcl de\u011fil, i\u00e7eriden verilen bir anlamd\u0131r. Mutlu olmay\u0131 se\u00e7ti\u011fimiz anda hayat de\u011fi\u015fmeye ba\u015flamaz; fakat hayat\u0131 ya\u015fay\u0131\u015f bi\u00e7imimiz de\u011fi\u015fir ve ger\u00e7ek d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm tam da burada ba\u015flar.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

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Ralph Marston Kimdir?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Ralph Marston (1955\u2013 ) Amerikal\u0131 motivasyon yazar\u0131 ve ki\u015fisel geli\u015fim d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u00fcd\u00fcr. \u00d6zellikle bireysel sorumluluk, i\u00e7sel motivasyon ve bilin\u00e7li ya\u015fam \u00fczerine yazd\u0131\u011f\u0131 metinlerle tan\u0131n\u0131r. Uzun y\u0131llard\u0131r yay\u0131mlad\u0131\u011f\u0131 motivasyon yaz\u0131lar\u0131 ve g\u00fcnl\u00fck ilham i\u00e7erikleriyle geni\u015f bir okuyucu kitlesine ula\u015fm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Marston\u2019un \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131, mutlulu\u011fun ve ba\u015far\u0131n\u0131n d\u0131\u015f ko\u015fullardan \u00e7ok bireyin zihinsel tutumlar\u0131yla \u015fekillendi\u011fi fikrine dayan\u0131r.<\/p>\n

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Be Happy Now \u2013 Tips for True Happiness<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n