{"id":2766,"date":"2014-10-25T16:54:50","date_gmt":"2014-10-25T13:54:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.ozdeyis.net\/?p=2766"},"modified":"2026-07-27T10:43:34","modified_gmt":"2026-07-27T10:43:34","slug":"aslinda-insanlar-seni-hayal-kirikligina-ugratmiyor-sadece-sen-yanlis-insanlar-uzerine-hayal-kuruyorsun-montaigne","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/en\/aslinda-insanlar-seni-hayal-kirikligina-ugratmiyor-sadece-sen-yanlis-insanlar-uzerine-hayal-kuruyorsun-montaigne.html","title":{"rendered":""In fact, people do not disappoint you. Only you are daydreaming about the wrong people.\u201d Montaigne"},"content":{"rendered":"

"In fact, people do not disappoint you. Only you are daydreaming about the wrong people.\u201d Montaigne<\/strong><\/em><\/h3>\n

Montaigne’in “Asl\u0131nda insanlar seni hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na u\u011fratm\u0131yor. Sadece sen yanl\u0131\u015f insanlar \u00fczerine hayal kuruyorsun.”<\/strong> s\u00f6z\u00fc, hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6nemli bir b\u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcn\u00fcn ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131ndan de\u011fil, bizim ger\u00e7ek\u00e7i olmayan beklentilerimizden kaynakland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlat\u0131r. \u0130nsanlar\u0131 olduklar\u0131 gibi g\u00f6rmek yerine, olmas\u0131n\u0131 istedi\u011fimiz ki\u015fi gibi g\u00f6rmeye ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131lmaz olarak hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ya\u015far\u0131z. Beklentilerimiz ger\u00e7eklerin \u00f6n\u00fcne ge\u00e7ti\u011finde, g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz insan de\u011fil; zihnimizde olu\u015fturdu\u011fumuz hayal olur.<\/strong> Montaigne, bize insan ili\u015fkilerinde daha sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 ba\u011flar kurabilmek i\u00e7in \u00f6nce ger\u00e7ekli\u011fi kabul etmeyi ve insanlar\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak yerine onlar\u0131 do\u011fru de\u011ferlendirmeyi \u00f6\u011f\u00fctler.<\/p>\n

Bu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceyi g\u00fcnl\u00fck hayatta uygulamak i\u00e7in kendinize \u015fu soruyu sormay\u0131 al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131k h\u00e2line getirebilirsiniz: “Bu ki\u015fiyi oldu\u011fu gibi mi g\u00f6r\u00fcyorum, yoksa olmas\u0131n\u0131 istedi\u011fim gibi mi hayal ediyorum?”<\/strong> Bu basit fark\u0131ndal\u0131k, hem dostluklarda hem de i\u015f hayat\u0131nda daha do\u011fru kararlar vermenize yard\u0131mc\u0131 olur. \u0130nsanlar\u0131 s\u00f6zlerinden \u00e7ok davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131yla de\u011ferlendirmek, gereksiz beklentileri azalt\u0131r ve hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcne ge\u00e7er. Ger\u00e7ek\u00e7i beklentiler, sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 ili\u015fkilerin en sa\u011flam temelidir.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Hepimiz hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n bir d\u00f6neminde bir dosttan, bir i\u015f arkada\u015f\u0131ndan ya da bir yak\u0131n\u0131m\u0131zdan bekledi\u011fimiz ilgiyi g\u00f6remedi\u011fimiz i\u00e7in \u00fcz\u00fclm\u00fc\u015f\u00fczd\u00fcr. Fakat zaman ge\u00e7tik\u00e7e anlar\u0131z ki sorun \u00e7o\u011fu zaman insanlar\u0131n kim oldu\u011fu de\u011fil, bizim onlar\u0131 kim olmalar\u0131n\u0131 istedi\u011fimizdir. Do\u011fru insanlar\u0131 se\u00e7mek kadar, onlar\u0131 do\u011fru tan\u0131mak da hayat\u0131n \u00f6nemli becerilerinden biridir. Montaigne’in de vurgulad\u0131\u011f\u0131 gibi, hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 azaltman\u0131n yolu insanlardan daha az \u015fey beklemek de\u011fil; beklentilerimizi ger\u00e7e\u011fin \u00fczerine de\u011fil, insanlar\u0131n ger\u00e7ek karakteri \u00fczerine in\u015fa etmektir.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

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Montaigne Kimdir?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Michel de Montaigne (1533-1592), Frans\u0131z filozof, yazar ve devlet adam\u0131d\u0131r. Deneme t\u00fcr\u00fcn\u00fcn kurucusu kabul edilen Montaigne, insan do\u011fas\u0131, bilgi, ahlak ve ya\u015fam \u00fczerine kaleme ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 Denemeler (Essais) adl\u0131 eseriyle d\u00fcnya d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce tarihine damga vurmu\u015ftur. \u0130\u00e7ten, sorgulay\u0131c\u0131 ve g\u00f6zleme dayal\u0131 anlat\u0131m\u0131yla tan\u0131nan Montaigne, insan\u0131 anlamaya y\u00f6nelik yakla\u015f\u0131m\u0131 sayesinde y\u00fczy\u0131llard\u0131r felsefe, psikoloji ve ki\u015fisel geli\u015fim alanlar\u0131nda ilham veren en \u00f6nemli d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrlerden biri olmay\u0131 s\u00fcrd\u00fcrmektedir.<\/p>\n

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\u0130nsanlara Dair \u00d6zl\u00fc S\u00f6zler ve \u00d6zdeyi\u015fler<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n