{"id":25460,"date":"2017-05-02T18:03:30","date_gmt":"2017-05-02T18:03:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/?p=25460"},"modified":"2026-04-02T17:17:11","modified_gmt":"2026-04-02T17:17:11","slug":"bazen-alabilecegin-en-buyuk-intikam-affetmektir-ve-bazen-karsindakine-verebilecek-en-guzel-cevap-gulup-gecmektir-victor-hugo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/en\/bazen-alabilecegin-en-buyuk-intikam-affetmektir-ve-bazen-karsindakine-verebilecek-en-guzel-cevap-gulup-gecmektir-victor-hugo.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cSometimes the greatest revenge you can take is forgiveness; And sometimes the best answer you can give to someone is to laugh at them.\u201d Victor Hugo"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cSometimes the greatest revenge you can take is forgiveness; And sometimes the best answer you can give to someone is to laugh at them.\u201d Victor Hugo<\/strong><\/em><\/h3>\n

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\u201cBazen alabilece\u011fin en b\u00fcy\u00fck intikam, affetmektir; ve bazen kar\u015f\u0131ndakine verebilecek en g\u00fczel cevap g\u00fcl\u00fcp ge\u00e7mektir.\u201d s\u00f6z\u00fc, Frans\u0131z yazar Victor Hugo\u2019nun insan ili\u015fkilerine dair derin psikolojik sezgisini yans\u0131t\u0131r. \u0130nsan do\u011fas\u0131 incindi\u011finde kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k vermek, hakl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 kan\u0131tlamak ya da ayn\u0131 ac\u0131y\u0131 ya\u015fatmak ister. Ancak Hugo\u2019nun i\u015faret etti\u011fi nokta \u015fudur: Ger\u00e7ek g\u00fc\u00e7 kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k vermekte de\u011fil, tepkiyi se\u00e7ebilme \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcndedir. Affetmek, yap\u0131lan\u0131 onaylamak anlam\u0131na gelmez; aksine, ya\u015fanan olay\u0131n \u00fczerimizdeki duygusal h\u00e2kimiyetini sona erdirmektir. Affetmek, kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdakini de\u011fil \u00f6nce kendimizi \u00f6zg\u00fcrle\u015ftiren bir eylemdir.<\/strong> G\u00fcl\u00fcp ge\u00e7ebilmek ise egonun de\u011fil, olgunlu\u011fun g\u00f6stergesidir; \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc her tart\u0131\u015fma cevap vermeye de\u011fmez ve her provokasyon dikkatimizi hak etmez.<\/p>\n

Bu s\u00f6zden ilhamla g\u00fcnl\u00fck hayatta uygulayabilece\u011fimiz pratik \u00f6neri \u015fudur: Sizi rahats\u0131z eden bir durumda hemen tepki vermek yerine \u201cduygusal gecikme\u201d al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131 geli\u015ftirin. Bir mesaj, bir s\u00f6z ya da bir davran\u0131\u015f sizi incitti\u011finde kendinize en az on dakika tan\u0131y\u0131n ve o s\u00fcrede cevap yazmay\u0131n ya da konu\u015fmay\u0131n. Tepkiyi ertelemek, duygular\u0131n y\u00f6netti\u011fi davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 bilin\u00e7li se\u00e7imlere d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr\u00fcr.<\/strong> Bizler \u00e7o\u011fu zaman anl\u0131k \u00f6fkeyle verdi\u011fimiz tepkilerden pi\u015fman oluruz; oysa k\u0131sa bir mesafe koydu\u011fumuzda affetmenin ya da g\u00f6rmezden gelmenin asl\u0131nda daha g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir se\u00e7enek oldu\u011funu fark ederiz.<\/p>\n

G\u00fcnl\u00fck hayatta bunu s\u0131k\u00e7a g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fcz: Sosyal medyada yap\u0131lan bir yorum kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda tart\u0131\u015fmaya giren biri saatlerce enerjisini kaybederken, ayn\u0131 yoruma g\u00fcl\u00fcp ge\u00e7en ki\u015fi g\u00fcn\u00fcne huzurla devam edebilir. \u0130\u015f hayat\u0131nda ya da ili\u015fkilerde de benzer durumlar ya\u015fan\u0131r; bazen sessizlik, en net cevapt\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc baz\u0131 m\u00fccadeleler kazan\u0131lsa bile insan\u0131 yorar. Ger\u00e7ek zafer, hakl\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kmak de\u011fil; i\u00e7 huzurunuzu koruyabilmektir.<\/em><\/strong> Victor Hugo\u2019nun bu s\u00f6z\u00fc bize \u015funu hat\u0131rlat\u0131r: Affetmek zay\u0131fl\u0131k de\u011fil, duygusal zek\u00e2n\u0131n ve i\u00e7sel g\u00fcc\u00fcn en olgun h\u00e2lidir.<\/p>\n

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Victor Hugo Kimdir?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Victor Hugo (1802-1885) Frans\u0131z romanc\u0131, \u015fair ve oyun yazar\u0131d\u0131r. Romantizm ak\u0131m\u0131n\u0131n en \u00f6nemli temsilcilerinden biri kabul edilen Hugo, Sefiller<\/em> (Les Mis\u00e9rables<\/em>) ve Notre Dame\u2019\u0131n Kamburu<\/em> gibi eserleriyle d\u00fcnya edebiyat\u0131nda kal\u0131c\u0131 bir iz b\u0131rakm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Eserlerinde adalet, merhamet, \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck ve insan onuru temalar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir toplumsal duyarl\u0131l\u0131kla i\u015flemi\u015f, edebiyat\u0131n yan\u0131 s\u0131ra siyasi ve insani konularda da etkili bir d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr olarak tan\u0131nm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p>\n

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