{"id":25076,"date":"2017-02-24T11:54:38","date_gmt":"2017-02-24T11:54:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/?p=25076"},"modified":"2026-05-21T12:37:25","modified_gmt":"2026-05-21T12:37:25","slug":"en-az-hakettigim-zaman-sev-beni-cunku-en-cok-ihtiyacim-oldugu-zaman-odur-isvec-atasozu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/en\/en-az-hakettigim-zaman-sev-beni-cunku-en-cok-ihtiyacim-oldugu-zaman-odur-isvec-atasozu.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cLove me when I least deserve it; because that's when I need it most." Swedish Proverb"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cLove me when I least deserve it; because that's when I need it most." Swedish Proverb<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/h3>\n

\u201cEn az hak etti\u011fim zaman sev beni; \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc en \u00e7ok ihtiyac\u0131m oldu\u011fu zaman odur.\u201d s\u00f6z\u00fc, insan ili\u015fkilerinin en k\u0131r\u0131lgan ama en ger\u00e7ek y\u00f6nlerinden birine dokunur. Bu \u0130sve\u00e7 Atas\u00f6z\u00fc<\/span><\/span>\u00a0sevginin yaln\u0131zca iyi g\u00fcnlerde g\u00f6sterilen bir duygu olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlat\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc insanlar \u00e7o\u011fu zaman \u00f6fkeli, k\u0131rg\u0131n, i\u00e7ine kapanm\u0131\u015f ya da zorlay\u0131c\u0131 davrand\u0131klar\u0131 d\u00f6nemlerde asl\u0131nda en fazla anlay\u0131\u015fa ihtiya\u00e7 duyarlar. Elbette bu, her davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 onaylamak anlam\u0131na gelmez. Ancak bazen sert g\u00f6r\u00fcnen tav\u0131rlar\u0131n alt\u0131nda korku, yaln\u0131zl\u0131k, yorgunluk ya da anla\u015f\u0131lmama hissi vard\u0131r. \u0130nsan\u0131n en karanl\u0131k anlar\u0131nda g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc anlay\u0131\u015f, bazen hayat\u0131n\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirecek kadar g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc olabilir.<\/strong> Ger\u00e7ek sevgi, yaln\u0131zca kolay zamanlarda de\u011fil; zor zamanlarda da ba\u011f kurabilmeyi gerektirir.<\/p>\n

Bu s\u00f6zden ilham alarak g\u00fcnl\u00fck ya\u015famda uygulayabilece\u011fimiz etkili bir \u00f6neri \u015fudur: Yak\u0131n\u0131n\u0131zdaki bir insan size beklenmedik \u015fekilde sert davrand\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, hemen savunmaya ge\u00e7meden \u00f6nce k\u0131sa bir an durup \u015funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn: \u201cAcaba \u015fu anda ger\u00e7ekten ne ya\u015f\u0131yor?\u201d \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc insanlar her zaman hissettiklerini a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a ifade edemezler. Kimi zaman stres, hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ya da i\u00e7sel s\u0131k\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015fl\u0131k farkl\u0131 davran\u0131\u015flarla d\u0131\u015far\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kar. Bu bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131 her problemi \u00e7\u00f6zmeyebilir; fakat ili\u015fkilerde empatiyi g\u00fc\u00e7lendirebilir. Anla\u015f\u0131lmak, \u00e7o\u011fu insan i\u00e7in \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fclmekten bile daha iyile\u015ftirici olabilir.<\/strong> Bazen sadece yarg\u0131lamadan dinlemek bile bir insan\u0131n y\u00fck\u00fcn\u00fc hafifletebilir.<\/p>\n

Hayatta bunu aile ili\u015fkilerinde, dostluklarda ve hatta \u00e7ocuklarla kurdu\u011fumuz ba\u011flarda s\u0131k\u00e7a g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fcz. \u00d6rne\u011fin i\u00e7ine kapanan bir \u00e7ocu\u011fun bazen cezadan \u00e7ok ilgiye ihtiyac\u0131 vard\u0131r. S\u00fcrekli sinirli g\u00f6r\u00fcnen bir insan\u0131n alt\u0131nda uzun s\u00fcredir ta\u015f\u0131nan bir k\u0131rg\u0131nl\u0131k olabilir. Zor zamanlar\u0131nda tamamen yaln\u0131z b\u0131rak\u0131lan insanlar ise zamanla i\u00e7lerine daha fazla kapanabilirler. Elbette sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 s\u0131n\u0131rlar \u00f6nemlidir; fakat sevginin ger\u00e7ek de\u011feri, \u00e7o\u011fu zaman en zor anlarda ortaya \u00e7\u0131kar. \u0130nsan bazen en g\u00fczel halindeyken de\u011fil, en da\u011f\u0131lm\u0131\u015f halindeyken anla\u015f\u0131lmaya ve sevilmeye ihtiya\u00e7 duyar.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

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A\u015fk ve Sevgi \u00dczerine En \u0130yi \u00d6zl\u00fc S\u00f6zler<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n