{"id":24257,"date":"2017-01-18T09:48:23","date_gmt":"2017-01-18T07:48:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.ozdeyis.net\/?p=24257"},"modified":"2026-09-24T17:26:34","modified_gmt":"2026-09-24T17:26:34","slug":"hic-suphesiz-yaptigim-en-dogru-sey-kendini-vazgecilmez-sanan-insanlardan-uzaklasmam-oldu-charles-bukowski","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/en\/hic-suphesiz-yaptigim-en-dogru-sey-kendini-vazgecilmez-sanan-insanlardan-uzaklasmam-oldu-charles-bukowski.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cUndoubtedly, the best thing I've ever done was to stay away from people who think they're indispensable.\u201d Charles Bukowski"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cUndoubtedly, the best thing I've ever done was to stay away from people who think they're indispensable.\u201d Charles Bukowski<\/strong><\/em><\/h3>\n

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Charles Bukowski\u2019ye atfedilen bu s\u00f6z, hayat\u0131m\u0131zdaki baz\u0131 ili\u015fkilerin bizi g\u00fc\u00e7lendirmek yerine zamanla t\u00fcketebilece\u011fini hat\u0131rlat\u0131r. Kendini vazge\u00e7ilmez g\u00f6ren insanlar, sahip olduklar\u0131 konumun veya ili\u015fkilerin kendilerine s\u0131n\u0131rs\u0131z bir ayr\u0131cal\u0131k verdi\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnebilir; s\u00fcrekli anlay\u0131\u015f bekleyebilir, s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 \u00f6nemsemeyebilir ya da yokluklar\u0131yla bizi korkutmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fabilirler. Oysa hi\u00e7 kimse ba\u015fka bir insan\u0131n hayat\u0131nda vazge\u00e7ilmez de\u011fildir.<\/strong> Sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 ili\u015fkiler, birinin di\u011ferine mecbur olmas\u0131na de\u011fil; iki insan\u0131n birbirini \u00f6zg\u00fcrce se\u00e7mesine, de\u011fer vermesine ve kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 sayg\u0131 g\u00f6stermesine dayan\u0131r. Bu nedenle baz\u0131 insanlardan uzakla\u015fmak bir kay\u0131p de\u011fil, kendi de\u011ferimizi ve s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 koruma karar\u0131<\/strong> olabilir.<\/p>\n

Bu s\u00f6zden g\u00fcnl\u00fck ya\u015fam i\u00e7in \u00e7\u0131karabilece\u011fimiz pratik \u00f6neri \u015fudur: Size s\u00fcrekli olarak kendinizi de\u011fersiz, yetersiz veya mecbur hissettiren bir ili\u015fkinin kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a belirleyin.<\/strong> \u00d6ncelikle sizi rahats\u0131z eden davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 kendi i\u00e7inizde netle\u015ftirin ve m\u00fcmk\u00fcnse bunu sakin bir \u015fekilde kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdaki ki\u015fiye ifade edin. De\u011fi\u015fmeyen davran\u0131\u015flar kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda ise mesafenizi art\u0131rmaktan \u00e7ekinmeyin. Elbette her anla\u015fmazl\u0131kta insanlar\u0131 hayat\u0131m\u0131zdan \u00e7\u0131karmak \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm de\u011fildir; \u00f6nemli olan, bir ili\u015fkiyi s\u0131rf yaln\u0131z kalmaktan korktu\u011fumuz i\u00e7in s\u00fcrd\u00fcrmemektir. Bazen bir insandan uzakla\u015fmak, o insana kar\u015f\u0131 de\u011fil, kendimize kar\u015f\u0131 sorumlulu\u011fumuzdur.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00d6rne\u011fin i\u015f yerinde s\u00fcrekli olarak b\u00fct\u00fcn y\u00fck\u00fc size b\u0131rakan, katk\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 g\u00f6rmezden gelen ve \u201cBen olmazsam hi\u00e7bir \u015fey y\u00fcr\u00fcmez.\u201d tavr\u0131yla sizi bask\u0131 alt\u0131nda tutan bir \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn. \u0130lk ba\u015fta onun deneyimine ihtiya\u00e7 duydu\u011funuzu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnebilirsiniz; ancak zamanla kendi becerilerinizi geli\u015ftirdik\u00e7e onun ger\u00e7ekten vazge\u00e7ilmez olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 fark edersiniz. Ayn\u0131 durum arkada\u015fl\u0131klarda ve \u00f6zel ili\u015fkilerde de ge\u00e7erlidir. Bir insan hayat\u0131m\u0131zda \u00e7ok de\u011ferli olabilir; fakat de\u011ferli olmakla vazge\u00e7ilmez oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmek ayn\u0131 \u015fey de\u011fildir.<\/strong> Bukowski\u2019nin s\u00f6z\u00fc bize \u015funu hat\u0131rlat\u0131r: Hayat\u0131m\u0131zdan \u00e7\u0131kan her insan bir eksiklik yaratmaz; bazen baz\u0131 insanlar\u0131n \u00e7\u0131k\u0131\u015f\u0131, kendimize yeniden yer a\u00e7mam\u0131z\u0131 sa\u011flar.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

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Charles Bukowski Kimdir?<\/h3>\n

Charles Bukowski (1920-1994) Alman as\u0131ll\u0131 Amerikal\u0131 \u015fair, yazar ve edebiyat\u00e7\u0131d\u0131r. 16 A\u011fustos 1920’de Almanya’n\u0131n Andernach kentinde do\u011fan Bukowski, \u00e7ocuklu\u011funda ailesiyle birlikte Amerika Birle\u015fik Devletleri’ne ta\u015f\u0131nm\u0131\u015f ve ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131n b\u00fcy\u00fck b\u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcn\u00fc Los Angeles’ta ge\u00e7irmi\u015ftir. Yaln\u0131zl\u0131k, toplumla uyumsuzluk, s\u0131radan insanlar\u0131n ya\u015famlar\u0131, a\u015fk, alkol, \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma hayat\u0131 ve bireysel \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck gibi temalar\u0131 kendine \u00f6zg\u00fc, do\u011frudan ve \u00e7o\u011fu zaman sert bir dille i\u015flemi\u015ftir. Postane<\/em>, Factotum<\/em>, Kad\u0131nlar<\/em> . Ekmek Aras\u0131<\/em> romanlar\u0131n\u0131n yan\u0131 s\u0131ra \u00e7ok say\u0131da \u015fiir kitab\u0131 ve \u00f6yk\u00fc yay\u0131mlam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Yerle\u015fik edebiyat anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131na mesafeli duran Bukowski, zamanla Amerikan edebiyat\u0131n\u0131n k\u00fclt isimlerinden biri h\u00e2line gelmi\u015ftir.<\/p>\n

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\u0130nsanlara Dair \u00d6zl\u00fc S\u00f6zler ve \u00d6zdeyi\u015fler<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n