{"id":23707,"date":"2016-12-14T19:04:02","date_gmt":"2016-12-14T17:04:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.ozdeyis.net\/?p=23346"},"modified":"2026-03-24T14:46:52","modified_gmt":"2026-03-24T14:46:52","slug":"sozleri-tutmanin-en-iyi-yolu-hic-soz-vermemektir-oscar-wilde","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/en\/sozleri-tutmanin-en-iyi-yolu-hic-soz-vermemektir-oscar-wilde.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cThe best way to keep promises is to never make any promises.\u201d Oscar Wilde"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cThe best way to keep promises is to never make any promises.\u201d Oscar Wilde<\/strong><\/em><\/h3>\n

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\u201cS\u00f6zleri tutman\u0131n en iyi yolu, hi\u00e7 s\u00f6z vermemektir.\u201d s\u00f6z\u00fc, Oscar Wilde<\/span><\/span>\u2019\u0131n ironik ama bir o kadar ger\u00e7ek\u00e7i bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 yans\u0131t\u0131r. \u0130lk bak\u0131\u015fta abart\u0131l\u0131 ya da alayc\u0131 gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcnen bu ifade, asl\u0131nda insan ili\u015fkilerinde sorumluluk ve beklenti y\u00f6netimine dair g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir mesaj ta\u015f\u0131r. \u00c7o\u011fu zaman iyi niyetle verdi\u011fimiz s\u00f6zler, anl\u0131k duygular\u0131n etkisiyle ortaya \u00e7\u0131kar; fakat zaman, ko\u015fullar ve ger\u00e7ek kapasitemiz devreye girdi\u011finde bu s\u00f6zleri tutmak zorla\u015f\u0131r. Wilde burada bize \u015funu hat\u0131rlat\u0131r: De\u011ferli olan \u00e7ok s\u00f6z vermek de\u011fil, g\u00fcvenilir olmakt\u0131r.<\/strong> \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc tutulmayan her s\u00f6z, yaln\u0131zca bir plan\u0131n de\u011fil, g\u00fcven duygusunun da zedelenmesine neden olur. Bu nedenle s\u00f6z vermek bir nezaket de\u011fil, bilin\u00e7li bir sorumluluk eylemidir.<\/p>\n

Bu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceden hareketle g\u00fcnl\u00fck hayatta uygulayabilece\u011fimiz pratik \u00f6neri olduk\u00e7a basittir: \u201cDur ve de\u011ferlendir\u201d kural\u0131. Birine s\u00f6z vermeden \u00f6nce kendinize \u015fu soruyu sorun: \u201cBunu ger\u00e7ekten yapabilecek zaman\u0131m, enerjim ve iste\u011fim var m\u0131?\u201d E\u011fer cevap net de\u011filse, hemen s\u00f6z vermek yerine d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmek i\u00e7in zaman isteyin. S\u0131n\u0131r koymak, ilgisizlik de\u011fil; d\u00fcr\u00fcstl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn en sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bi\u00e7imidir.<\/strong> Bizler \u00e7o\u011fu zaman insanlar\u0131 k\u0131rmamak i\u00e7in \u201cevet\u201d deriz; fakat sonras\u0131nda yerine getirilemeyen s\u00f6zler daha b\u00fcy\u00fck hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131klar\u0131 yarat\u0131r. Daha az s\u00f6z verip daha \u00e7ok yerine getirmek, ki\u015fisel g\u00fcvenilirli\u011fi art\u0131ran en g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klardan biridir.<\/p>\n

Bunu g\u00fcndelik bir \u00f6rnekle d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnelim: Yo\u011fun bir haftada bir arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131za yard\u0131m edece\u011finize s\u00f6z verdi\u011finizi varsay\u0131n. O an iyi hissettiren bu karar, zaman bask\u0131s\u0131 ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda strese d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015febilir. Oysa ba\u015ftan \u201cProgram\u0131m\u0131 kontrol edip size d\u00f6neyim\u201d demek hem sizi hem kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakini korur. B\u00f6ylece verilen her s\u00f6z bilin\u00e7li bir se\u00e7ime d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr. \u0130nsanlar s\u00f6ylediklerimizi de\u011fil, tutarl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 hat\u0131rlar.<\/strong> Ger\u00e7ek g\u00fcven, \u00e7ok s\u00f6z vermekten de\u011fil; yaln\u0131zca ger\u00e7ekten yapabilece\u011fimiz \u015feyler i\u00e7in s\u00f6z vermekten do\u011far.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

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Oscar Wilde Kimdir?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) \u0130rlandal\u0131 yazar, \u015fair ve oyun yazar\u0131d\u0131r. Viktorya d\u00f6nemi edebiyat\u0131n\u0131n en parlak isimlerinden biri olan Wilde, keskin zek\u00e2s\u0131, mizahi dili ve toplumsal ele\u015ftirileriyle tan\u0131n\u0131r. Dorian Gray\u2019in Portresi<\/em> roman\u0131 ve sahne oyunlar\u0131yla edebiyat tarihinde \u00f6nemli bir yer edinmi\u015f, estetik anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131 ve insan do\u011fas\u0131na dair g\u00f6zlemleriyle modern d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceyi etkileyen g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir edebi fig\u00fcr olmu\u015ftur.<\/p>\n

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Quotes About Thinking Differently<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n