{"id":23566,"date":"2016-11-30T12:32:21","date_gmt":"2016-11-30T10:32:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.ozdeyis.net\/?p=22991"},"modified":"2026-09-20T08:15:16","modified_gmt":"2026-09-20T08:15:16","slug":"affettigimden-degil-bos-verdigimden-uzerinde-durmuyorum-cogu-seyin-ve-mutlu-oldugum-icin-degil-guclu-oldugum-icin-guluyorum-t-s-eliot","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/en\/affettigimden-degil-bos-verdigimden-uzerinde-durmuyorum-cogu-seyin-ve-mutlu-oldugum-icin-degil-guclu-oldugum-icin-guluyorum-t-s-eliot.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cI don't dwell on most things, not because I forgive, but because I let go. And I laugh not because I am happy, but because I am strong.\u201d TS Eliot"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cI don't dwell on most things, not because I forgive, but because I let go. And I laugh not because I am happy, but because I am strong.\u201d TS Eliot<\/strong><\/em><\/h3>\n

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T. S. Eliot\u2019a atfedilen bu s\u00f6z, hayatta her \u015feyin \u00fczerine gitmek, her s\u00f6ze cevap vermek ve her k\u0131rg\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131 uzun uzun ta\u015f\u0131mak zorunda olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 anlat\u0131r. Bazen bir \u015feyi affetmekten \u00e7ok, ona hayat\u0131m\u0131zda daha fazla yer vermemeyi se\u00e7mek<\/strong> bizi \u00f6zg\u00fcrle\u015ftirir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc s\u00fcrekli a\u00e7\u0131klama yapmak, hakl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 kan\u0131tlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak ve ge\u00e7mi\u015fte ya\u015fananlar\u0131 tekrar tekrar d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmek, ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z olaydan daha fazla enerji t\u00fcketebilir. Buradaki g\u00fc\u00e7 ise hi\u00e7 incinmemek anlam\u0131na gelmez; incinsek bile kendimizi o duygunun i\u00e7inde kaybetmemeyi ifade eder. Olgunluk, her sava\u015fa girmek de\u011fil, hangi sava\u015f\u0131n bizim enerjimize de\u011fmeyece\u011fini fark edebilmektir.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Bu s\u00f6zden g\u00fcnl\u00fck hayat\u0131m\u0131za ta\u015f\u0131yabilece\u011fimiz tek bir pratik \u00f6neri \u015fudur: Sizi rahats\u0131z eden bir olayla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda hemen tepki vermek yerine kendinize \u201cBunun bir hafta sonra hayat\u0131mdaki \u00f6nemi ne olacak?\u201d diye sorun.<\/strong> E\u011fer cevab\u0131n\u0131z \u201cmuhtemelen hi\u00e7bir \u015fey\u201d ise, o anda verece\u011finiz tepkinin size ne kazand\u0131raca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 yeniden d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn. Bu, duygular\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 bast\u0131rmak veya ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z haks\u0131zl\u0131klar\u0131 g\u00f6rmezden gelmek de\u011fildir. Tam tersine, enerjinizi nereye harcayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131za bilin\u00e7li bi\u00e7imde karar vermektir.<\/strong> Bazen susmak yenilmek de\u011fil, zihinsel ve duygusal s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 korumakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n

\u00d6rne\u011fin i\u015f yerinde bir arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n sizin hakk\u0131n\u0131zda gereksiz bir yorum yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnelim. \u0130lk anda cevap vermek, kendinizi a\u00e7\u0131klamak ve onun yanl\u0131\u015f d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc kan\u0131tlamak isteyebilirsiniz. Fakat biraz durup bunun ger\u00e7ekten \u00e7\u00f6zmeniz gereken bir mesele olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 de\u011ferlendirdi\u011finizde, belki de verece\u011finiz en g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc cevab\u0131n hi\u00e7bir cevap vermemek oldu\u011funu fark edebilirsiniz. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc her s\u00f6ze cevap vermek zorunda olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 \u00f6\u011frendi\u011fimizde, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n \u00fczerimizdeki etkisini de azaltmaya ba\u015flar\u0131z.<\/strong> T. S. Eliot\u2019un bu s\u00f6z\u00fcnde anlat\u0131lan g\u00fc\u00e7, duygusuzla\u015fmak de\u011fil; neyin pe\u015finden gidece\u011fimizi, neyi geride b\u0131rakaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 se\u00e7ebilmektir. Bazen en b\u00fcy\u00fck g\u00fc\u00e7, kazanaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bir tart\u0131\u015fmay\u0131 s\u00fcrd\u00fcrmek de\u011fil, huzurumuzu kaybetmeye de\u011fmeyecek bir tart\u0131\u015fmadan sessizce uzakla\u015fmakt\u0131r.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

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T. S. Eliot Kimdir?<\/h3>\n

T. S. Eliot (1888-1965) Amerikal\u0131 do\u011fumlu \u0130ngiliz \u015fair, deneme yazar\u0131, ele\u015ftirmen ve edit\u00f6rd\u00fcr. 20. y\u00fczy\u0131l modernist \u015fiirinin en \u00f6nemli temsilcilerinden biri kabul edilen Eliot, \u00f6zellikle \u00c7orak \u00dclke (The Waste Land) ve D\u00f6rt Kuartet (Four Quartets) adl\u0131 eserleriyle tan\u0131nm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. \u015eiirlerinde modern insan\u0131n yaln\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131, anlam aray\u0131\u015f\u0131, zaman, inan\u00e7 ve toplumsal de\u011fi\u015fim gibi konular\u0131 ele alm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. 1927 y\u0131l\u0131nda \u0130ngiliz vatanda\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131na ge\u00e7en Eliot, edebiyat alan\u0131ndaki etkili \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131 nedeniyle 1948 y\u0131l\u0131nda Nobel Edebiyat \u00d6d\u00fcl\u00fcne lay\u0131k g\u00f6r\u00fclm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr. \u015eiir anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131 ve edebiyat ele\u015ftirileri, modern \u0130ngiliz ve d\u00fcnya edebiyat\u0131n\u0131n geli\u015fiminde \u00f6nemli bir etki b\u0131rakm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p>\n

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Self Confidence Quotations<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n