{"id":23554,"date":"2016-11-29T14:28:47","date_gmt":"2016-11-29T12:28:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.ozdeyis.net\/?p=22965"},"modified":"2026-02-13T20:45:08","modified_gmt":"2026-02-13T20:45:08","slug":"senin-kendini-nasil-gordugun-baskasinin-seni-nasil-gordugunden-cok-daha-onemlidir-t-s-eliot","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/en\/senin-kendini-nasil-gordugun-baskasinin-seni-nasil-gordugunden-cok-daha-onemlidir-t-s-eliot.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cHow you see yourself is much more important than how someone else sees you.\u201d TS Eliot"},"content":{"rendered":"

“Senin kendini nas\u0131l g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn, ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n seni nas\u0131l g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnden \u00e7ok daha \u00f6nemlidir.” T. S. Eliot<\/strong><\/em><\/h3>\n

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T. S. Eliot<\/span><\/span>, \u00f6zde\u011ferin d\u0131\u015f onaydan ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131z olmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir \u015fekilde hat\u0131rlat\u0131r. Biz \u00e7o\u011fu zaman aynaya ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n g\u00f6zl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcyle bakar\u0131z. Alk\u0131\u015f ald\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda y\u00fckselir, ele\u015ftirildi\u011fimizde k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcl\u00fcr\u00fcz. Oysa ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n bizi nas\u0131l g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc; onlar\u0131n deneyimleri, \u00f6nyarg\u0131lar\u0131 ve beklentileriyle \u015fekillenir. Ger\u00e7ek kimli\u011fimiz, d\u0131\u015f yarg\u0131lardan de\u011fil i\u00e7 alg\u0131m\u0131zdan do\u011far.<\/strong> Ki\u015fisel geli\u015fim ve motivasyon s\u00fcrecinde en kritik e\u015fik, \u00f6zsayg\u0131y\u0131 ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n takdirine ba\u011flamamakt\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc d\u0131\u015f onay de\u011fi\u015fkendir; i\u00e7sel de\u011fer ise bilin\u00e7li olarak in\u015fa edilir.<\/p>\n

Bu s\u00f6zden ilhamla g\u00fcnl\u00fck hayatta uygulayabilece\u011fimiz tek bir pratik \u00f6neri: \u201cKendi Tan\u0131m\u0131n\u0131 Yaz\u201d \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131 yap\u0131n.<\/strong> Bir k\u00e2\u011f\u0131da kendinizi \u00fc\u00e7 g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc y\u00f6n\u00fcn\u00fczle tan\u0131mlay\u0131n. Ard\u0131ndan \u015fu soruyu sorun: \u201cBa\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n yorumlar\u0131 olmasayd\u0131, ben kendimi nas\u0131l tan\u0131mlard\u0131m?\u201d Bu egzersiz, \u00f6z alg\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 d\u0131\u015f etiketlerden ar\u0131nd\u0131r\u0131r. \u00c7o\u011fu insan kendini ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n s\u00f6yledi\u011fi c\u00fcmlelerle tan\u0131mlar. Oysa kimli\u011finizi siz yazmazsan\u0131z, ba\u015fkalar\u0131 yazar.<\/strong> Ve yaz\u0131lan her etiket, potansiyelinizi ya s\u0131n\u0131rlar ya da \u00f6zg\u00fcrle\u015ftirir.<\/p>\n

D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn; bir ki\u015fi size \u201cYetersizsin\u201d dedi\u011finde buna inan\u0131rsan\u0131z, davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131z o inanc\u0131 do\u011frulamaya ba\u015flar. Ama siz kendinizi \u201cGeli\u015fen bir insan\u0131m\u201d olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcrseniz, ele\u015ftiri sizi y\u0131kmaz; g\u00fc\u00e7lendirir. T. S. Eliot\u2019\u0131n mesaj\u0131 nettir: Hayat\u0131n y\u00f6n\u00fcn\u00fc belirleyen ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n bak\u0131\u015f\u0131 de\u011fil, sizin \u00f6z alg\u0131n\u0131zd\u0131r. Kendini g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc g\u00f6ren insan g\u00fc\u00e7lenir; kendini k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck g\u00f6ren insan k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcl\u00fcr.<\/em><\/strong> Ve ger\u00e7ek \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck, kim oldu\u011funuzu ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n de\u011fil, sizin belirlemenizle ba\u015flar.<\/p>\n

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T. S. Eliot Kimdir?<\/h3>\n

T. S. Eliot<\/span><\/span>, 26 Eyl\u00fcl 1888\u2019de ABD\u2019de do\u011fmu\u015f, daha sonra \u0130ngiliz vatanda\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131na ge\u00e7mi\u015f ve 4 Ocak 1965\u2019te vefat etmi\u015f \u015fair, oyun yazar\u0131 ve edebiyat ele\u015ftirmenidir. Modernist edebiyat\u0131n en \u00f6nemli isimlerinden biri kabul edilir. En bilinen eserleri aras\u0131nda \u201cThe Waste Land\u201d (\u00c7orak \u00dclke)<\/strong> ve \u201cFour Quartets\u201d (D\u00f6rt Kuartet)<\/strong> yer al\u0131r. 1948 y\u0131l\u0131nda Nobel Edebiyat \u00d6d\u00fcl\u00fc\u2019n\u00fc kazanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Eserlerinde bireyin i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyas\u0131, kimlik aray\u0131\u015f\u0131 ve modern insan\u0131n yaln\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131 gibi temalar\u0131 derinlemesine i\u015flemi\u015ftir.<\/p>\n

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\u00d6zg\u00fcven \u00d6zl\u00fc S\u00f6zleri<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n