{"id":23554,"date":"2016-11-29T14:28:47","date_gmt":"2016-11-29T12:28:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.ozdeyis.net\/?p=22965"},"modified":"2026-09-23T13:34:15","modified_gmt":"2026-09-23T13:34:15","slug":"senin-kendini-nasil-gordugun-baskasinin-seni-nasil-gordugunden-cok-daha-onemlidir-t-s-eliot","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/en\/senin-kendini-nasil-gordugun-baskasinin-seni-nasil-gordugunden-cok-daha-onemlidir-t-s-eliot.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cHow you see yourself is much more important than how someone else sees you.\u201d TS Eliot"},"content":{"rendered":"

“Senin kendini nas\u0131l g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn, ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n seni nas\u0131l g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnden \u00e7ok daha \u00f6nemlidir.” T. S. Eliot<\/strong><\/em><\/h3>\n

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T. S. Eliot<\/span><\/span>, \u00f6zde\u011ferin d\u0131\u015f onaydan ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131z olmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir \u015fekilde hat\u0131rlat\u0131r. Biz \u00e7o\u011fu zaman aynaya ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n g\u00f6zl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcyle bakar\u0131z. Alk\u0131\u015f ald\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda y\u00fckselir, ele\u015ftirildi\u011fimizde k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcl\u00fcr\u00fcz. Oysa ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n bizi nas\u0131l g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc; onlar\u0131n deneyimleri, \u00f6nyarg\u0131lar\u0131 ve beklentileriyle \u015fekillenir. Ger\u00e7ek kimli\u011fimiz, d\u0131\u015f yarg\u0131lardan de\u011fil i\u00e7 alg\u0131m\u0131zdan do\u011far.<\/strong> Ki\u015fisel geli\u015fim ve motivasyon s\u00fcrecinde en kritik e\u015fik, \u00f6zsayg\u0131y\u0131 ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n takdirine ba\u011flamamakt\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc d\u0131\u015f onay de\u011fi\u015fkendir; i\u00e7sel de\u011fer ise bilin\u00e7li olarak in\u015fa edilir.<\/p>\n

Bu s\u00f6zden ilhamla g\u00fcnl\u00fck hayatta uygulayabilece\u011fimiz tek bir pratik \u00f6neri: \u201cKendi Tan\u0131m\u0131n\u0131 Yaz\u201d \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131 yap\u0131n.<\/strong> Bir k\u00e2\u011f\u0131da kendinizi \u00fc\u00e7 g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc y\u00f6n\u00fcn\u00fczle tan\u0131mlay\u0131n. Ard\u0131ndan \u015fu soruyu sorun: \u201cBa\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n yorumlar\u0131 olmasayd\u0131, ben kendimi nas\u0131l tan\u0131mlard\u0131m?\u201d Bu egzersiz, \u00f6z alg\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 d\u0131\u015f etiketlerden ar\u0131nd\u0131r\u0131r. \u00c7o\u011fu insan kendini ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n s\u00f6yledi\u011fi c\u00fcmlelerle tan\u0131mlar. Oysa kimli\u011finizi siz yazmazsan\u0131z, ba\u015fkalar\u0131 yazar.<\/strong> Ve yaz\u0131lan her etiket, potansiyelinizi ya s\u0131n\u0131rlar ya da \u00f6zg\u00fcrle\u015ftirir.<\/p>\n

D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn; bir ki\u015fi size \u201cYetersizsin\u201d dedi\u011finde buna inan\u0131rsan\u0131z, davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131z o inanc\u0131 do\u011frulamaya ba\u015flar. Ama siz kendinizi \u201cGeli\u015fen bir insan\u0131m\u201d olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcrseniz, ele\u015ftiri sizi y\u0131kmaz; g\u00fc\u00e7lendirir. T. S. Eliot\u2019\u0131n mesaj\u0131 nettir: Hayat\u0131n y\u00f6n\u00fcn\u00fc belirleyen ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n bak\u0131\u015f\u0131 de\u011fil, sizin \u00f6z alg\u0131n\u0131zd\u0131r. Kendini g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc g\u00f6ren insan g\u00fc\u00e7lenir; kendini k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck g\u00f6ren insan k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcl\u00fcr.<\/em><\/strong> Ve ger\u00e7ek \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck, kim oldu\u011funuzu ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n de\u011fil, sizin belirlemenizle ba\u015flar.<\/p>\n

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T. S. Eliot Kimdir?<\/h3>\n

T. S. Eliot<\/span><\/span>, 26 Eyl\u00fcl 1888\u2019de ABD\u2019de do\u011fmu\u015f, daha sonra \u0130ngiliz vatanda\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131na ge\u00e7mi\u015f ve 4 Ocak 1965\u2019te vefat etmi\u015f \u015fair, oyun yazar\u0131 ve edebiyat ele\u015ftirmenidir. Modernist edebiyat\u0131n en \u00f6nemli isimlerinden biri kabul edilir. En bilinen eserleri aras\u0131nda \u201cThe Waste Land\u201d (\u00c7orak \u00dclke) ve \u201cFour Quartets\u201d (D\u00f6rt Kuartet) yer al\u0131r. 1948 y\u0131l\u0131nda Nobel Edebiyat \u00d6d\u00fcl\u00fc\u2019n\u00fc kazanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Eserlerinde bireyin i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyas\u0131, kimlik aray\u0131\u015f\u0131 ve modern insan\u0131n yaln\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131 gibi temalar\u0131 derinlemesine i\u015flemi\u015ftir.<\/p>\n

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\u00d6zg\u00fcven \u00d6zl\u00fc S\u00f6zleri<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n