{"id":23431,"date":"2016-11-21T00:20:34","date_gmt":"2016-11-20T22:20:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.ozdeyis.net\/?p=22704"},"modified":"2026-09-16T07:09:01","modified_gmt":"2026-09-16T07:09:01","slug":"dusmaninin-bilmesini-istemedigin-seyi-dostuna-soyleme-arthur-schopenhauer","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/en\/dusmaninin-bilmesini-istemedigin-seyi-dostuna-soyleme-arthur-schopenhauer.html","title":{"rendered":""Don't tell your friend what you don't want your enemy to know." Arthur Schopenhauer"},"content":{"rendered":"

"Don't tell your friend what you don't want your enemy to know." Arthur Schopenhauer<\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n

\"\u201cKom\u015fular<\/a><\/p>\n

Arthur Schopenhauer\u2019un bu s\u00f6z\u00fc, insan ili\u015fkilerinde g\u00fcven ile tedbir aras\u0131ndaki dengeye<\/strong> dikkat \u00e7eker. Dostumuz olarak g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz bir insanla d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerimizi, duygular\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 ve \u00f6zel hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 payla\u015fmak do\u011fal olabilir; ancak yak\u0131nl\u0131k, kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdaki ki\u015fiye hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n b\u00fct\u00fcn s\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131 teslim etmemiz gerekti\u011fi anlam\u0131na gelmez. \u0130nsanlar de\u011fi\u015febilir, ili\u015fkiler sona erebilir ve bug\u00fcn yan\u0131m\u0131zda olan biri yar\u0131n hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda kalabilir. Bu nedenle s\u00f6z\u00fcn temelinde dostluklara ku\u015fkuyla yakla\u015fmak de\u011fil, \u00f6zel bilgilerimizi kiminle, ne \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcde ve hangi ko\u015fullarda payla\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n fark\u0131nda olmak<\/strong> vard\u0131r. Sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 s\u0131n\u0131rlar koymak, insanlara g\u00fcvenmemek de\u011fil; g\u00fcveni bilin\u00e7li kullanmakt\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc baz\u0131 bilgiler yaln\u0131zca bize ait olmal\u0131 ve de\u011ferini, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n onlar\u0131 bilmemesinden almal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Bu s\u00f6zden g\u00fcnl\u00fck ya\u015fam i\u00e7in \u00e7\u0131karabilece\u011fimiz tek bir pratik \u00f6neri \u015fudur: Bir bilginizi payla\u015fmadan \u00f6nce kendinize \u201cBu bilgi yar\u0131n herkes taraf\u0131ndan bilinseydi bundan rahats\u0131z olur muydum?\u201d sorusunu sorun.<\/strong> Cevab\u0131n\u0131z evetse, o bilgiyi payla\u015fmak i\u00e7in acele etmeyin. \u00d6zellikle maddi durumunuz, ailevi meseleleriniz, ili\u015fkileriniz, i\u015f planlar\u0131n\u0131z veya hen\u00fcz ger\u00e7ekle\u015fmemi\u015f hedefleriniz konusunda se\u00e7ici davranabilirsiniz. Bu, \u00e7evremizdeki insanlar\u0131 s\u00fcrekli s\u0131namak anlam\u0131na gelmez; kendi mahremiyetimizin sorumlulu\u011funu \u00fcstlenmek<\/strong> anlam\u0131na gelir. G\u00fcven zaman i\u00e7inde olu\u015fur ve s\u0131n\u0131rlar, g\u00fcvenin kar\u015f\u0131t\u0131 de\u011fil, sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 ili\u015fkilerin koruyucu \u00e7er\u00e7evesidir.<\/p>\n

\u00d6rne\u011fin yeni bir i\u015f kurmak i\u00e7in haz\u0131rl\u0131k yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnelim. Yak\u0131n \u00e7evrenizdeki birka\u00e7 ki\u015fiyle heyecan\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 payla\u015fabilirsiniz; fakat i\u015fin b\u00fct\u00fcn ayr\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131, finansal plan\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 veya hen\u00fcz tamamlanmam\u0131\u015f stratejinizi herkesle konu\u015fman\u0131z gerekmeyebilir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bir plan hen\u00fcz ger\u00e7ekle\u015fmeden ne kadar \u00e7ok ki\u015fiye anlat\u0131l\u0131rsa, kontrol\u00fcn\u00fcz d\u0131\u015f\u0131ndaki yorum ve m\u00fcdahalelere o kadar a\u00e7\u0131k h\u00e2le gelebilir. Ayn\u0131 durum \u00f6zel hayat\u0131m\u0131zdaki hassas konular i\u00e7in de ge\u00e7erlidir. Kendimize ait olan\u0131 korumak, insanlardan uzakla\u015fmak de\u011fil; ili\u015fkilerimizin s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131 bilin\u00e7le belirlemektir.<\/strong> Her \u015feyi herkesle payla\u015fmak samimiyet de\u011fildir; neyi, kiminle ve ne zaman payla\u015faca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilmek de bir t\u00fcr ya\u015fam bilgeli\u011fidir.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

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Arthur Schopenhauer Kimdir?<\/h3>\n

Arthur Schopenhauer (1788-1860) Alman filozof ve yazard\u0131r. Danzig\u2019de do\u011fan Schopenhauer, \u00f6zellikle irade, insan do\u011fas\u0131, mutluluk, yaln\u0131zl\u0131k ve ya\u015fam\u0131n anlam\u0131 \u00fczerine geli\u015ftirdi\u011fi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerle 19. y\u00fczy\u0131l felsefesinin \u00f6nemli isimlerinden biri olmu\u015ftur. En tan\u0131nm\u0131\u015f eseri \u0130sten\u00e7 ve Tasar\u0131m Olarak D\u00fcnya<\/em> (The World as Will and Representation<\/em>), onun insan davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 ve d\u00fcnyay\u0131 alg\u0131lama bi\u00e7imini a\u00e7\u0131klayan temel \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131d\u0131r. Schopenhauer, insan ili\u015fkileri ve toplumsal davran\u0131\u015flar \u00fczerine yazd\u0131\u011f\u0131 aforizmalar\u0131yla da geni\u015f bir okur kitlesine ula\u015fm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceleri daha sonra Friedrich Nietzsche, Sigmund Freud ve farkl\u0131 alanlardan pek \u00e7ok d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u00fc etkilemi\u015ftir.<\/p>\n

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\u0130nsanlara Dair \u00d6zl\u00fc S\u00f6zler ve \u00d6zdeyi\u015fler<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n