{"id":23373,"date":"2016-11-14T14:24:09","date_gmt":"2016-11-14T12:24:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.ozdeyis.net\/?p=22572"},"modified":"2026-03-18T11:07:25","modified_gmt":"2026-03-18T11:07:25","slug":"kotuyu-yap-bir-kere-kalmaz-hicbir-soz-isitmedigin-iyiyi-yap-iki-kere-sesini-duy-sessizligin-dale-carnegie","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/en\/kotuyu-yap-bir-kere-kalmaz-hicbir-soz-isitmedigin-iyiyi-yap-iki-kere-sesini-duy-sessizligin-dale-carnegie.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cDo bad for once, you don't hear a word. Do good twice, hear your voice, your silence.\u201d Dale Carnegie"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cDo bad for once, you don't hear a word. Do good twice, hear your voice, your silence.\u201d Dale Carnegie<\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n

\"Ba\u015far\u0131n\u0131n<\/a><\/p>\n

Dale Carnegie<\/span><\/span> taraf\u0131ndan ifade edilen \u201cK\u00f6t\u00fcy\u00fc yap bir kere, kalmaz hi\u00e7bir s\u00f6z i\u015fitmedi\u011fin. \u0130yiyi yap iki kere, sesini duy sessizli\u011fin.\u201d s\u00f6z\u00fc, insan davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n toplum ve vicdan \u00fczerindeki etkisini g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir bi\u00e7imde anlat\u0131r. \u0130nsan zihni olumsuza kar\u015f\u0131 daha hassast\u0131r; yap\u0131lan tek bir yanl\u0131\u015f, \u00e7o\u011fu zaman uzun s\u00fcre hat\u0131rlan\u0131r ve yank\u0131 bulur. Buna kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k iyilik \u00e7o\u011fu zaman sessizdir; alk\u0131\u015flanmaz, man\u015fet olmaz, hatta fark edilmeden ge\u00e7ip gider. Ancak Dale Carnegie\u2019nin i\u015faret etti\u011fi as\u0131l nokta \u015fudur: iyilik d\u0131\u015f d\u00fcnyada de\u011fil, \u00f6nce insan\u0131n i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyas\u0131nda kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k bulur.<\/strong> Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n tepkisi ge\u00e7ici olabilir ama vicdan\u0131n huzuru kal\u0131c\u0131d\u0131r. Bu y\u00fczden ger\u00e7ek geli\u015fim, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n ne s\u00f6yledi\u011finden \u00e7ok kendi i\u00e7 sesimizi nas\u0131l duydu\u011fumuzla ilgilidir.<\/p>\n

Bu s\u00f6zden hareketle g\u00fcnl\u00fck hayatta uygulayabilece\u011fimiz pratik \u00f6neri olduk\u00e7a basit ama etkilidir: \u201cSessiz iyilik al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131\u201d geli\u015ftirmek. Her g\u00fcn kimse bilmeden yap\u0131lacak k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir iyilik se\u00e7in; birine destek olmak, bir hatay\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fctmemek ya da te\u015fekk\u00fcr etmeyi ihmal etmemek gibi. Bunu sosyal onay i\u00e7in de\u011fil, bilin\u00e7li bir ki\u015fisel geli\u015fim prati\u011fi olarak yap\u0131n. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc tekrar edilen olumlu davran\u0131\u015flar karakteri in\u015fa eder.<\/strong> Zamanla fark edersiniz ki iyilik bir davran\u0131\u015f olmaktan \u00e7\u0131kar, kimli\u011finizin do\u011fal bir par\u00e7as\u0131 haline gelir. Ki\u015fisel geli\u015fim ve motivasyon a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan s\u00fcrd\u00fcr\u00fclebilir de\u011fi\u015fim tam da burada ba\u015flar.<\/p>\n

\u00d6rne\u011fin i\u015f yerinde yap\u0131lan k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir hata kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda sert bir tepki vermek kolayd\u0131r; o an hakl\u0131 bile hissedebilirsiniz. Ancak anlay\u0131\u015fla yakla\u015fmay\u0131 se\u00e7ti\u011finizde ortam\u0131n enerjisi de\u011fi\u015fir, ili\u015fkiler g\u00fc\u00e7lenir ve siz de i\u00e7sel bir sakinlik ya\u015fars\u0131n\u0131z. \u0130nsanlar belki bunu y\u00fcksek sesle dile getirmez ama siz kendi sessizli\u011finizde bir fark hissedersiniz. \u0130\u015fte Dale Carnegie\u2019nin mesaj\u0131 burada hayat bulur: Ger\u00e7ek \u00f6d\u00fcl, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n alk\u0131\u015f\u0131 de\u011fil; iyilik yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda i\u00e7inizde olu\u015fan o derin huzurun sesidir.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

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Dale Carnegie Kimdir?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Dale Carnegie (1888\u20131955) Amerikal\u0131 yazar, e\u011fitmen ve ki\u015fisel geli\u015fim alan\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6nc\u00fclerinden biridir. \u0130nsan ili\u015fkileri, etkili ileti\u015fim ve liderlik \u00fczerine verdi\u011fi e\u011fitimlerle d\u00fcnya \u00e7ap\u0131nda tan\u0131nm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. En bilinen eseri The Art of Winning Friends and Influencing People<\/em> (How to Win Friends and Influence People), milyonlarca ki\u015fiye ileti\u015fim becerileri ve sosyal ba\u015far\u0131 konusunda rehberlik etmi\u015ftir. Carnegie, bireysel ba\u015far\u0131n\u0131n temelinde empati, anlay\u0131\u015f ve olumlu insan ili\u015fkilerinin bulundu\u011funu savunan yakla\u015f\u0131m\u0131yla modern ki\u015fisel geli\u015fim literat\u00fcr\u00fcne kal\u0131c\u0131 katk\u0131lar sa\u011flam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p>\n

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\u0130nsanlara Dair \u00d6zl\u00fc S\u00f6zler ve \u00d6zdeyi\u015fler<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n