{"id":19544,"date":"2016-08-10T10:54:04","date_gmt":"2016-08-10T07:54:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.ozdeyis.net\/?p=19544"},"modified":"2026-07-07T14:31:59","modified_gmt":"2026-07-07T14:31:59","slug":"insan-sevdigini-oldugu-gibi-sever-olmasini-istedigi-gibi-degil-lev-tolstoy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/en\/insan-sevdigini-oldugu-gibi-sever-olmasini-istedigi-gibi-degil-lev-tolstoy.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cPeople love what they love as they are, not as they want them to be.\u201d Leo Tolstoy"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cPeople love what they love as they are, not as they want them to be.\u201d Leo Tolstoy<\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n

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Ger\u00e7ek sevgi, bir insan\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak de\u011fil; onu oldu\u011fu haliyle g\u00f6rebilmek ve kabul edebilmektir. Lev Tolstoy’un bu s\u00f6z\u00fc, sevginin temelinde ko\u015fulsuz kabul, sayg\u0131 ve i\u00e7tenlik<\/strong> bulundu\u011funu hat\u0131rlat\u0131r. Elbette hepimizin eksikleri ve geli\u015fmeye a\u00e7\u0131k y\u00f6nleri vard\u0131r. Ancak sevgi, kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdaki insan\u0131 kendi beklentilerimize g\u00f6re \u015fekillendirme \u00e7abas\u0131 de\u011fildir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bir insan\u0131 s\u00fcrekli de\u011fi\u015ftirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda, asl\u0131nda onu de\u011fil, zihnimizde olu\u015fturdu\u011fumuz bir hayali sevmeye ba\u015flar\u0131z. Sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 ili\u015fkiler ise insanlar\u0131n birbirini oldu\u011fu gibi kabul edebildi\u011fi g\u00fcvenli bir zeminde b\u00fcy\u00fcr.<\/p>\n

Bu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceyi g\u00fcnl\u00fck ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131za ta\u015f\u0131mak i\u00e7in bug\u00fcn k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir ad\u0131m atabilirsiniz. Sevdi\u011finiz bir ki\u015fiyi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fczde, onun de\u011fi\u015ftirmesini istedi\u011finiz \u00f6zelliklere odaklanmak yerine, onun en \u00e7ok de\u011fer verdi\u011finiz \u00fc\u00e7 \u00f6zelli\u011fini bir k\u00e2\u011f\u0131da yaz\u0131n.<\/strong> Bu basit egzersiz, dikkatinizi eksiklere de\u011fil, sahip oldu\u011funuz g\u00fczelliklere y\u00f6nlendirir. \u0130li\u015fkiler \u00e7o\u011fu zaman kusurlar\u0131 d\u00fczeltmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015farak de\u011fil, g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc y\u00f6nleri fark edip takdir ederek g\u00fc\u00e7lenir.<\/p>\n

D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn; bir arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n s\u00fcrekli sizi de\u011fi\u015ftirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 hissetseniz, onun yan\u0131nda ne kadar rahat olabilirsiniz? Buna kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k, sizi hatalar\u0131n\u0131zla, g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc y\u00f6nlerinizle ve ger\u00e7ek kimli\u011finizle kabul eden birinin yan\u0131nda kendinizi daha \u00f6zg\u00fcr hissedersiniz. Sevgi, insan\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirmeye zorlayan de\u011fil, oldu\u011fu haliyle de\u011ferli hissettiren en g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc duygulardan biridir.<\/strong> \u0130nsanlar kabul g\u00f6rd\u00fckleri yerde geli\u015fir, sevildikleri yerde k\u00f6k salar ve ger\u00e7ek benliklerini cesaretle ortaya koyabilirler.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

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Lev Tolstoy Kimdir?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Lev Tolstoy (1828-1910), Rus romanc\u0131, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr ve filozoftur. D\u00fcnya edebiyat\u0131n\u0131n en b\u00fcy\u00fck yazarlar\u0131ndan biri kabul edilen Tolstoy, \u00f6zellikle Sava\u015f ve Bar\u0131\u015f<\/em> with Anna Karenina<\/em> adl\u0131 eserleriyle tan\u0131n\u0131r. Romanlar\u0131nda insan do\u011fas\u0131n\u0131, ahlaki de\u011ferleri, sevgiyi, vicdan\u0131 ve ya\u015fam\u0131n anlam\u0131n\u0131 derin bir bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131yla ele alm\u0131\u015f; d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceleri yaln\u0131zca edebiyat\u0131 de\u011fil, felsefe ve toplumsal ya\u015fam\u0131 da \u00f6nemli \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcde etkilemi\u015ftir.<\/p>\n

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\u0130nsanlara Dair \u00d6zl\u00fc S\u00f6zler ve \u00d6zdeyi\u015fler<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n