{"id":1829,"date":"2010-02-13T02:03:54","date_gmt":"2010-02-13T02:03:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/tameraktas.com\/wptest\/wordpress\/2010\/02\/13\/athkyn-motivasyonu-4\/"},"modified":"2025-01-06T18:23:37","modified_gmt":"2025-01-06T18:23:37","slug":"askin-motivasyonu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/en\/askin-motivasyonu.html","title":{"rendered":"Love's Motivation"},"content":{"rendered":"

\""G\u00fczel<\/a><\/p>\n

Love's Motivation<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n

Shakespeare said, \u201cLove is madness\u201d. However, until today, people could not live without love. Since the first man, many great works have been created for love, and many lives have been put in danger. So what is this LOVE phenomenon that people are passionate about? Why and how do people fall in love? Is there everlasting love? What are the secrets of a long lasting love? To find the answers to all these questions, we explored the motivation of love. Here are the results of this study with the latest scientific findings.<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u0130lk insandan bu yana a\u015fk olgusu, tutkuyla ya\u015fanan bir deneyim olarak g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcze kadar \u00f6nemini korumu\u015ftur. Ancak g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczdeki bir fark, a\u015fk\u0131n gizli do\u011fas\u0131n\u0131 anlamak a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan daha bilimsel bulgular\u0131n ortaya \u00e7\u0131km\u0131\u015f olmas\u0131d\u0131r. G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz bilim d\u00fcnyas\u0131n\u0131n a\u015fk\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131klama \u00e7abalar\u0131 farkl\u0131 alanlardan beslenmektedir. Bunlar Evrimsel-Darwinist\u00e7i g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f ve N\u00f6ro-biyolojik aland\u0131r. Bu iki bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131, bilimsel bulgularla pek \u00e7ok anlamda birle\u015fmi\u015f g\u00f6z\u00fckmektedir. A\u015fk\u0131n bilimsel yorumu \u015fudur; a\u015fk hali, asl\u0131nda beyin korteksindeki do\u011fal \u201camfetamin\u201dler olan \u201cdopamin\u201d ve \u201cnorepinepherin\u201d gibi sinir ileticileri seviyelerinin aniden y\u00fckselmesinin sonucunda hissetti\u011fimiz bir duygu yo\u011funla\u015fmas\u0131d\u0131r. A\u015fk\u0131 tetikleyen ba\u015fl\u0131ca kimyasal maddeler ise \u201cserotonin\u201d ve \u201cfeniletilamin\u201ddir. Beynin a\u015fk uyar\u0131m\u0131yla ilgilenen hipatolomustan salg\u0131lanan bu sinir ileticileri beynin ilgili y\u00f6nlerine ula\u015farak kimyasal bir s\u00fcre\u00e7 ba\u015flat\u0131rlar. A\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011fumuzda bol miktarda salg\u0131lanan bu maddeler beyninizdeki ruh hallerini kontrol eden b\u00f6lgelere ula\u015farak a\u015fk hissini ya\u015famam\u0131za neden olurlar.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

A\u015f\u0131k olmak, uygun zamanlamayla ve haz\u0131r olmayla yak\u0131ndan ili\u015fkilidir. Yani sizin i\u00e7in kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z ki\u015fi en m\u00fckemmel ve en uygun ki\u015fi de olsa, e\u011fer a\u015fka haz\u0131r de\u011filseniz onu fark etmezsiniz. Peki a\u015f\u0131k olmak ne kadar zaman al\u0131r? A\u015f\u0131k olma, buna haz\u0131r olan birisi i\u00e7in \u00e7ok h\u0131zl\u0131 geli\u015fen bir olgudur.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

For a group of people, this is a process triggered by a particular stimulus. Some of us are more sensitive to people who give signals that are meaningful to them. The source of signals such as tone of voice, gait or facial shape can be our family life, culture or even a movie watched.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

However, it is a fact that we like similar people and we feel that we can get along with them more easily. Some scientific facts play a role in the emergence of this feeling.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

Anatomy of Attraction<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n
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D\u00fcnyan\u0131n farkl\u0131 yerlerindeki 37 farkl\u0131 toplumdan insan \u00fczerinde yap\u0131lan bir \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmada, insanlar\u0131n uzun s\u00fcreli bir ili\u015fki kuracaklar\u0131 ki\u015fide arad\u0131klar\u0131 \u00f6zelliklerin ba\u015f\u0131nda \u201ckar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 \u00e7ekim\u201d oldu\u011fu ortaya \u00e7\u0131km\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Bu \u00e7ekimi ortaya \u00e7\u0131karan belirli s\u00fcre\u00e7ler vard\u0131r. Ara\u015ft\u0131rmalarda erkekleri kar\u015f\u0131 cinste etkileyen en \u00f6nemli \u015feyin \u201cg\u00f6rsel uyar\u0131c\u0131\u201dlar oldu\u011fu belirlenirken; kad\u0131nlar\u0131nsa daha \u00e7ok kar\u015f\u0131 cinsin \u201ckarakter\u201d \u00f6zelliklerinden etkilendi\u011fi ortaya konmu\u015ftur.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

According to one experiment, men found women with a waist-to-hip ratio of 7\/10 more attractive. This is because visuality is important to men. This form of proportion conveys an important message from the subconscious of the man. According to the findings, it is seen that women with waist-hip ratios around 0.7 are more suitable for giving birth to a baby, can get pregnant more easily and have less miscarriage.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Bu veri \u015fu ara\u015ft\u0131rmayla da anlaml\u0131 gelmektedir. Erkek ve kad\u0131nlar \u00fczerinde yap\u0131lan bir ara\u015ft\u0131rmada, y\u00fczdeki simetrinin \u00f6nemli bir \u00e7ekicilik unsuru oldu\u011fu kaydedilmi\u015ftir. Deneye g\u00f6re, kar\u015f\u0131 cinsten birinin y\u00fcz\u00fcndeki simetri derecesi ne kadar fazlaysa o \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcde \u00e7ekici olarak alg\u0131lanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Bir kad\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7ekicili\u011fini belirleyen ve fiziksel \u00f6zelliklerini \u015fekillendiren unsur salg\u0131lanan \u00f6strojen hormonudur. Bir erke\u011fin \u00e7ekicili\u011fini belirleyen \u015fey ise v\u00fccudunda salg\u0131lanan testosteron\u00a0hormonudur. Bilim insanlar\u0131na g\u00f6re erkekler, hormon d\u00fczeylerinin sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 oldu\u011funu g\u00f6steren \u00f6zelliklere sahip kad\u0131nlar\u0131 a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 derecede \u00e7ekici bulmaktad\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bu, bir erkek i\u00e7in kad\u0131n\u0131n sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 \u00e7ocuk do\u011furabilece\u011fi mesaj\u0131n\u0131 alg\u0131lamas\u0131na neden olmaktad\u0131r. Evrimsel bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131na g\u00f6re de erkekler, milyonlarca y\u0131l boyunca sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131, gen\u00e7 ve do\u011furgan oldu\u011fu belli olan kad\u0131nlarla e\u015fle\u015fme i\u00e7g\u00fcd\u00fcs\u00fc g\u00f6stermi\u015flerdir. Kad\u0131nlar\u0131n gen\u00e7 g\u00f6r\u00fcnmek i\u00e7in estetik ameliyatlara ve g\u00fczellik sekt\u00f6r\u00fcne bu kadar para harcamas\u0131n\u0131n bu veriyle \u00e7ok anlaml\u0131 oldu\u011fu s\u00f6ylenebilir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc gen\u00e7lik ve g\u00fczellik temelde \u00fcreme potansiyelini ifade etmekte ve kad\u0131n\u0131n erkekler taraf\u0131ndan se\u00e7im \u015fans\u0131n\u0131 \u00fczerine toplamaktad\u0131r.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Kad\u0131nlar da \u201chakimiyet\u201d belirten g\u00f6stergeler olan, erkekteki g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir v\u00fccut yap\u0131s\u0131n\u0131, \u00fcreme ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131na sezgisel mesajlar olarak alg\u0131lamaktad\u0131r. Kad\u0131nlar erkeklerde d\u0131\u015f g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcm yan\u0131nda karakter \u00f6zellikleri de ararlar. G\u00fcvenilirlik, sadakat, iyi kalplilik gibi karakter \u00f6zellikleri, iyi bir koca ve iyi baba olma mesajlar\u0131n\u0131 da i\u00e7inde ta\u015f\u0131maktad\u0131r. Kad\u0131nlar erkeklerde kendileri ve \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 i\u00e7in iyi bir gelecek sa\u011flay\u0131p sa\u011flayamayaca\u011f\u0131na bakarlar. Kad\u0131nlar i\u00e7in bu anlamda zengin ve stat\u00fc sahibi birisini \u00e7ekici bulmas\u0131n\u0131n evrimsel a\u00e7\u0131dan a\u00e7\u0131klamas\u0131 da mant\u0131kl\u0131d\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bu unsurlar kad\u0131nlar ve \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 i\u00e7in bir gelecek g\u00fcvencesi anlam\u0131na gelmektedir.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Kendimiz i\u00e7in uygun ki\u015fiyi bulmam\u0131zda \u201ckoku\u201d fakt\u00f6r\u00fc de \u00f6nemli bir rol oynamaktad\u0131r. Koklama duyumuz sayesinde her bireye \u00f6zg\u00fc olan bir \u201ckoku izi\u201dni fark ederiz. Bu kokusuz kimyasal\u00a0 imzalar olan \u201cferomon\u201d sayesinde kendimiz i\u00e7in iyi bir sevgiliyi k\u00f6t\u00fc olandan do\u011fal \u015fekilde ay\u0131rabiliriz. Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla kullan\u0131lan parf\u00fcmler yerine ki\u015finin kendi \u00f6z kokusunu serbest b\u0131rakmas\u0131 \u00e7ekicili\u011fi sa\u011flama a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan daha uygundur.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Kar\u015f\u0131 cinste bizi \u00e7eken unsurlardan birisi de \u201czeka\u201dd\u0131r. Zeki insanlar\u0131 kendimize e\u015f se\u00e7memiz mant\u0131kl\u0131d\u0131r, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc genleri gelece\u011fe aktarmay\u0131 i\u00e7g\u00fcd\u00fcsel \u015fekilde isteriz. Di\u011fer bir \u00e7ekicilik unsuru da \u201cyarat\u0131c\u0131l\u0131k\u201dt\u0131r. Bir ara\u015ft\u0131rmaya g\u00f6re yarat\u0131c\u0131 mesleklerle u\u011fra\u015fan sanat\u00e7\u0131lar, \u015fairler, nispeten daha az yarat\u0131c\u0131 olan mesleklere g\u00f6re iki kat fazla partnerle birlikte olmu\u015flard\u0131r. (Ekip Notu: Bu bulgunun tersi de do\u011fru olabilir. Yani bu ki\u015filer yarat\u0131c\u0131 ki\u015filer olduklar\u0131 i\u00e7in cinsel aktivite d\u00fczeylerinde bir art\u0131\u015f olmu\u015f olabilir).<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Apart from the anatomical features that affect attractiveness, there are also environmental factors. For example, perceived attractiveness to the opposite sex increases in situations of fear or anxiety. In one experiment, women appeared more attractive to men in fear situations where the heart beat more. In this sense, the most suitable environment for influencing the opposite sex is excitement environments that give a feeling of fear and tension (going to an amusement park or a horror movie, etc.).<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

What Are the Consequences of Falling in Love? <\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n
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Ara\u015ft\u0131rmalara g\u00f6re hayatta kalmam\u0131z a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan a\u015fk\u0131n \u00f6nemli i\u015flevleri vard\u0131r. A\u015fk\u0131n kimyasal maddeleri ba\u011f\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131k sistemimizi g\u00fc\u00e7lendirirken, kalp rahats\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131 gibi pek \u00e7ok hastal\u0131\u011fa yakalanma riskini azaltmaktad\u0131r. Daha uzun ya\u015fama, daha az hastalanma gibi pek \u00e7ok olumlu taraf\u0131 da vard\u0131r. Bir ara\u015ft\u0131rmaya g\u00f6re, halen sevgiye dayal\u0131 bir ili\u015fki ya\u015fayam\u0131yor olman\u0131n, insanlar\u0131n sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131na k\u00f6t\u00fc beslenmek, egzersiz yapmamak, kilolu olmak ve hatta sigara i\u00e7mekten bile daha zararl\u0131 oldu\u011fu ortaya \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Bu olumlu taraflar\u0131n\u0131n yan\u0131nda a\u015f\u0131k olmak beyinde \u00f6ylesine bir etkiye neden olur ki, yasa d\u0131\u015f\u0131 uyu\u015fturucu kullanan ki\u015filerde olu\u015fan biyokimyasal tepkimelere benzer sonu\u00e7lar ortaya \u00e7\u0131kmas\u0131na yol a\u00e7arlar. \u00d6rne\u011fin bir insan\u0131n a\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011fu ki\u015finin bir foto\u011fraf\u0131na bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda beyninde g\u00f6r\u00fclen tepkiyle kokain kulland\u0131\u011f\u0131nda g\u00f6r\u00fclen etki olduk\u00e7a benzerlik g\u00f6stermektedir. \u201cDopamin\u201d hormonu, y\u00fcksek d\u00fczeyde bir odaklanma ve sars\u0131lmaz bir motivasyon kayna\u011f\u0131d\u0131r. A\u015fk hallerinde bu hormon b\u00fcy\u00fck bir salg\u0131lama g\u00f6sterir. Y\u00fcksek dopamin a\u015fk\u0131n enerjisini\u00a0sa\u011flayan ve o ki\u015fiye ba\u011fl\u0131 kal\u0131nmas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flayan bir etkide bulunur. Bu durum evrimsel a\u00e7\u0131dan da mant\u0131kl\u0131 olarak tek bir bireye ilgi g\u00f6stermemizi ve odaklanmam\u0131z\u0131 sa\u011flar. B\u00f6ylece do\u011fa, \u00e7ocu\u011fun do\u011fmas\u0131na kadar ge\u00e7en s\u00fcreci garanti alt\u0131na alm\u0131\u015f olur.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Memelilerin %97\u2019si \u00e7ok e\u015flidir. Bu anlamda insanlar\u0131n tek e\u015fli olarak kalmas\u0131 se\u00e7imin d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda belirli fakt\u00f6rlere ba\u011fl\u0131 g\u00f6z\u00fckmektedir. Bunlardan en \u00f6nemlisi, oksitosin denilen ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131k hormonunun ne kadar s\u0131k salg\u0131land\u0131\u011f\u0131d\u0131r. \u201cOksitosin\u201d hormonu, cinsel bir uyar\u0131c\u0131 olarak i\u015flev g\u00f6rmektedir. (Bu ayn\u0131 zamanda, annenin bebe\u011fini emzirdi\u011finde salg\u0131lanan ve annenin bebe\u011fine ba\u011flanmas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flayan salg\u0131d\u0131r). Ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131k hormonu olarak i\u015flev g\u00f6ren bu salg\u0131, cinsel ili\u015fki s\u0131ras\u0131nda salg\u0131lanmakta ve her iki taraf\u0131n ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00fc\u00e7lendirmektedir. Bu sonuca g\u00f6re e\u011fer sevdi\u011finiz bir insanla ili\u015fkiye girerseniz ve bunu ne kadar s\u0131k \u015fekilde yaparsan\u0131z o ili\u015fkinin devaml\u0131l\u0131k olas\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 art\u0131rm\u0131\u015f olursunuz. Bu anlamda biten ili\u015fkilerde g\u00f6r\u00fclen \u00f6nemli bir neden de bu salg\u0131n\u0131n az salg\u0131lanmas\u0131, yani cinsel ili\u015fkinin bir \u015fekilde azalmas\u0131 ve bitmeye y\u00fcz tutmas\u0131d\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Di\u011fer bir hormon olan \u201cvazopressin\u201d de, cinsel ili\u015fki s\u0131ras\u0131nda salg\u0131lan\u0131r ve uzun vadeli ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 sa\u011flayan bir etki yarat\u0131r. \u0130nsanlarda oldu\u011fu gibi tarla fareleri de bu hormonu salg\u0131lar ve yap\u0131lan deneylerde ili\u015fki\u00a0s\u0131ras\u0131nda salg\u0131lanan bu hormon, beynin ilgili k\u0131sm\u0131nda ho\u015f bir an\u0131 olu\u015fturmas\u0131n\u0131 ve sonraki s\u00fcre\u00e7te \u00e7iftlerde bir ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131k olu\u015fmas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flamaktad\u0131r.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

However, this intense emotional state of love gradually decreases between the 18th month and the 3rd year of the relationship. Neurotransmitters, which affect the moods of lovers, lose their former power and gradually lose their effect on the brain, which is accustomed to them.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

According to scientists, an integral part of monogamous society is the cheating of spouses. According to this, it has been revealed that more than half of the men and almost one-third of the women cheat on their spouses during any period of marriage. So what is the reason for cheating? For men, cheating is an evolved form of the human reproductive drive. In a sense, this impulse secures the continuation of the human race. In other words, for an instinctive reason, men try to increase the number of matings. However, women, by contrast, often cheat on their partners when they are unhappy in their original relationship. However, we humans are not mostly instinctive creatures. However, some critical factors play a role for a long-term relationship to last.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

Secrets of Keeping Love Warm and a Long-Term Relationship<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n