{"id":17812,"date":"2015-11-23T13:51:58","date_gmt":"2015-11-23T13:51:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/?p=17812"},"modified":"2026-02-08T09:23:29","modified_gmt":"2026-02-08T09:23:29","slug":"olaylari-kontrol-edemedigimde-kendimi-kontrol-ederim-montaigne","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/en\/olaylari-kontrol-edemedigimde-kendimi-kontrol-ederim-montaigne.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cWhen I can't control things, I control myself.\u201d Montaigne"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cWhen I can't control things, I control myself.\u201d Montaigne<\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n

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\u201cOlaylar\u0131 kontrol edemedi\u011fimde, kendimi kontrol ederim<\/strong>\u201d diyen Montaigne, insan\u0131n ger\u00e7ek g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fc d\u0131\u015f d\u00fcnyada de\u011fil, i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyas\u0131nda aramas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini hat\u0131rlat\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ya\u015fam dedi\u011fimiz \u015fey, \u00e7o\u011fu zaman bizim planlad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z gibi ilerlemez; beklenmedik olaylar, insanlar\u0131n tutumlar\u0131, \u015fartlar\u0131n sertli\u011fi kontrol alan\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n d\u0131\u015f\u0131ndad\u0131r. Ancak Montaigne\u2019in alt\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7izdi\u011fi nokta \u00e7ok nettir: Kontrol edemedi\u011fimiz \u015feyler kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda verdi\u011fimiz tepkiler tamamen bize aittir.<\/strong> Ki\u015fisel geli\u015fimin ve i\u00e7sel olgunlu\u011fun temeli de tam burada ba\u015flar. Olaylar\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftiremiyorsak bile, onlara y\u00fckledi\u011fimiz anlam\u0131 ve verdi\u011fimiz duygusal tepkiyi d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcrebiliriz.<\/p>\n

Bu s\u00f6zden ilhamla g\u00fcnl\u00fck hayatta uygulanabilecek tek ama etkili bir pratik \u00f6neri \u015fudur: Tetiklendi\u011finiz anlarda \u201cDur \u2013 Fark Et \u2013 Se\u00e7\u201d molas\u0131 verin.<\/strong> Can\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 s\u0131kan bir haber, bir insan\u0131n s\u00f6z\u00fc ya da beklenmedik bir durumla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda hemen tepki vermek yerine birka\u00e7 saniye durun. O anda ne hissetti\u011finizi fark edin ve ard\u0131ndan bilin\u00e7li bir se\u00e7im yap\u0131n. Biz \u00e7o\u011fu zaman otomatik tepkilerle hareket ederiz; oysa Montaigne\u2019in \u00f6nerdi\u011fi bilgelik, duygular\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n direksiyonuna ge\u00e7meyi \u00f6\u011frenmektir.<\/strong> Bu k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck fark\u0131ndal\u0131k anlar\u0131, \u00f6z kontrol kas\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 g\u00fc\u00e7lendirir.<\/p>\n

\u00d6rne\u011fin i\u015f hayat\u0131nda kontrol\u00fcm\u00fcz d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda geli\u015fen bir karar\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnelim. \u00d6fkeye kap\u0131l\u0131p enerjimizi t\u00fcketmek de m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr, bu durumu bir \u00f6\u011frenme alan\u0131na d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcrmek de. Ayn\u0131 olay, iki farkl\u0131 i\u00e7sel duru\u015fla tamamen farkl\u0131 sonu\u00e7lar do\u011furur. \u0130\u015fte Montaigne\u2019in s\u00f6z\u00fc burada hayat bulur: D\u0131\u015f d\u00fcnya karma\u015f\u0131k ve belirsiz olabilir; ama biz i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyam\u0131z\u0131 y\u00f6nettik\u00e7e ya\u015fam daha sakin, daha anlaml\u0131 hale gelir.<\/em><\/strong> Kendini kontrol edebilen insan, her ko\u015fulda ayakta kalabilen insand\u0131r.<\/p>\n

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Montaigne Kimdir?<\/h3>\n

Michel de Montaigne, 16. y\u00fczy\u0131lda ya\u015fam\u0131\u015f Frans\u0131z d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr, yazar ve denemecidir. \u201cDenemeler\u201d (Essais) adl\u0131 eseriyle modern deneme t\u00fcr\u00fcn\u00fcn kurucusu kabul edilir. Montaigne, insan do\u011fas\u0131n\u0131, duygular\u0131, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 ve kendini tan\u0131ma<\/strong> s\u00fcrecini merkeze alan yakla\u015f\u0131m\u0131yla tan\u0131n\u0131r. Onun felsefesi; kesin do\u011frular dayatmaktan \u00e7ok, insan\u0131n kendisiyle d\u00fcr\u00fcst bir ili\u015fki kurmas\u0131n\u0131 te\u015fvik eder. \u00d6z fark\u0131ndal\u0131k, i\u00e7sel denge ve ki\u015fisel geli\u015fim<\/strong> konular\u0131nda bug\u00fcn h\u00e2l\u00e2 yol g\u00f6sterici olmas\u0131n\u0131n nedeni de budur.<\/p>\n

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