{"id":12828,"date":"2015-08-10T20:17:36","date_gmt":"2015-08-10T17:17:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.ozdeyis.net\/?p=12828"},"modified":"2026-05-12T14:12:09","modified_gmt":"2026-05-12T14:12:09","slug":"herkes-ofkelenir-bu-cok-kolay-ama-dogru-seye-dogru-miktarda-dogru-zamanda-dogru-amacla-ve-dogru-bicimde-ofkelenmek-zordur-aristoteles","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/e-motivasyon.net\/en\/herkes-ofkelenir-bu-cok-kolay-ama-dogru-seye-dogru-miktarda-dogru-zamanda-dogru-amacla-ve-dogru-bicimde-ofkelenmek-zordur-aristoteles.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cEveryone gets angry. This is very easy. But it's hard to get angry at the right thing, in the right amount, at the right time, with the right purpose, and in the right way.\u201d Aristotle"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cEveryone gets angry. This is very easy. But it's hard to get angry at the right thing, in the right amount, at the right time, with the right purpose, and in the right way.\u201d Aristotle<\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n

\""Herkes<\/a><\/p>\n

\u201cHerkes \u00f6fkelenir. Bu \u00e7ok kolay. Ama do\u011fru \u015feye, do\u011fru miktarda, do\u011fru zamanda, do\u011fru ama\u00e7la ve do\u011fru bi\u00e7imde \u00f6fkelenmek zordur.\u201d s\u00f6z\u00fc, duygusal zek\u00e2n\u0131n ve \u00f6z denetimin ne kadar \u00f6nemli oldu\u011funu anlatan g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir fark\u0131ndal\u0131k c\u00fcmlesidir. Aristotle<\/span><\/span> burada \u00f6fkenin k\u00f6t\u00fc bir duygu oldu\u011funu s\u00f6ylemez; aksine onun nas\u0131l kullan\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n belirleyici oldu\u011funu vurgular. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u00f6fke, insan\u0131n s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131, de\u011ferlerini ve hassasiyetlerini g\u00f6steren do\u011fal bir duygudur. Ancak kontrols\u00fcz b\u0131rak\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ili\u015fkileri zedeleyebilir, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnme becerimizi k\u00f6reltebilir ve bizi sonradan pi\u015fman olaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z davran\u0131\u015flara s\u00fcr\u00fckleyebilir. As\u0131l mesele \u00f6fkelenmek de\u011fil, \u00f6fkenin bizi y\u00f6netmesine izin vermemektir.<\/strong> Ger\u00e7ek olgunluk, duygular\u0131 bast\u0131rmakta de\u011fil; onlar\u0131 bilin\u00e7li bir \u015fekilde y\u00f6nlendirebilmektedir.<\/p>\n

Bu s\u00f6zden ilham alarak g\u00fcnl\u00fck hayatta uygulayabilece\u011fimiz etkili bir y\u00f6ntem \u015fudur: \u00d6fkelendi\u011finiz anda hemen tepki vermek yerine kendinize k\u0131sa bir \u201cdurma alan\u0131\u201d olu\u015fturun. \u00d6rne\u011fin derin bir nefes al\u0131p i\u00e7inizden yava\u015f\u00e7a ona kadar say\u0131n ya da bulundu\u011funuz ortamdan birka\u00e7 dakikal\u0131\u011f\u0131na uzakla\u015f\u0131n. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc insan en b\u00fcy\u00fck hatalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7o\u011fu zaman d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeden verdi\u011fi ani tepkiler s\u0131ras\u0131nda yapar. O k\u0131sa bekleme an\u0131, zihnin yeniden kontrol\u00fc ele almas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flar. Bazen bir tart\u0131\u015fmay\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fcten \u015fey \u00f6fkenin kendisi de\u011fil, \u00f6fkenin h\u0131z\u0131d\u0131r.<\/strong> Duygular ge\u00e7icidir; fakat \u00f6fkeyle s\u00f6ylenen baz\u0131 s\u00f6zlerin etkisi uzun y\u0131llar kalabilir.<\/p>\n

Hayatta bunu s\u0131k s\u0131k g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fcz. Trafikte ya\u015fanan k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir tart\u0131\u015fman\u0131n b\u00fcy\u00fck kavgalara d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015fmesi, aile i\u00e7inde anl\u0131k \u00f6fkeyle s\u00f6ylenen k\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 s\u00f6zlerin y\u0131llarca unutulmamas\u0131 ya da i\u015f hayat\u0131nda kontrols\u00fcz tepkilerin ili\u015fkileri bozmas\u0131 bunun \u00f6rnekleridir. \u00d6te yandan \u00f6fkesini y\u00f6netebilen insanlar, kriz anlar\u0131nda bile daha g\u00fcven veren bir duru\u015f sergiler. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc sakin kalabilmek pasiflik de\u011fil, g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir i\u00e7 kontrol g\u00f6stergesidir. \u0130nsan bazen hakl\u0131 oldu\u011fu halde yanl\u0131\u015f davranabilir. Ger\u00e7ek bilgelik, sadece ne hissetti\u011fimizi de\u011fil; o duyguyla ne yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 da y\u00f6netebilmektir.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

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Aristotle<\/span><\/span> Kimdir?<\/h2>\n

Aristotle<\/span><\/span> (M\u00d6 384-M\u00d6 322) Antik Yunan filozofu ve bilim insan\u0131d\u0131r. Felsefe tarihinin en etkili d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrlerinden biri kabul edilen Aristoteles; etik, mant\u0131k, siyaset, psikoloji, biyoloji ve metafizik gibi bir\u00e7ok alanda \u00f6nemli \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar yapm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Plato<\/span><\/span>\u2019nun \u00f6\u011frencisi, B\u00fcy\u00fck \u0130skender’in\u00a0ise \u00f6\u011fretmeni olan Aristoteles, insan davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 ak\u0131l ve erdem kavramlar\u0131 \u00fczerinden incelemi\u015ftir. \u00d6zellikle \u201calt\u0131n orta\u201d anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131yla, a\u015f\u0131r\u0131l\u0131klardan uzak dengeli ya\u015fam fikrini savunmu\u015ftur. D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceleri y\u00fczy\u0131llar boyunca hem Do\u011fu hem Bat\u0131 d\u00fcnyas\u0131nda bilim, felsefe ve e\u011fitim \u00fczerinde derin etkiler b\u0131rakm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p>\n

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Quotations on Science and Wisdom<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n